- 7 years ago
So I had to share this little giggle with everyone.
Over a month ago, as some of you may remember, SO and I discussed me buying him a camera as an engagment gift when the time comes. It wasn’t a bribe, he and I are just very open. I know that an engagment is not coming soon – for multiple reasons (he’s “not ready”, but mostly his inability to spend large quanitities of money on a single purchase, especially if HE doesn’t want it or can’t use it.)
Anyways…. since the discussion, he has brought up the camera several times, and not in conjunction with an engagement – it’s all been in the aspect of him spending his own money to get it. He brought it up a few weeks after our discussion when we were out with his mom and her SO for margaritas. He basically was talking with his mom about escrow overage checks and that he planned on using his for buying a camera. I was like, what? So of course I glared at him from across the table and said, “what the hell am I supposed to buy you now?” He dropped it for a few weeks.
Then he found one on CraigsList for a decent price and pulled another, “what do you think about this one?” To which I just replied with, “you know what you have to do first”. He replied with “what?”…. I didn’t even respond, and just dropped it.
Then he brought it up yet again Tuesday night. Well, actually he asked me if I owed anything on my Best Buy credit card. Of course I knew that he was hinting towards, “can I use your card to get interest free on my camera purchase?” I just told him, “no, I don’t owe anything on it”. Of course I pried out the why later.
Then Wednesday he sends me a text message that the camera he wants is on sale for a $100 off at Best Buy if he buys it online, he can pick it up in a nearby store, and would I want to go with him to get it. I just said “ok”. It’s his money, if he wants it bad enough, he’s going to get it anyways, right? So then he asks me why I act so bummed everytime he brings up him getting a camera.
Reallyy??? How about because I thought we had already discussed when we would get you one? (And for clarification, it’s not that he forgot this discussion) How about because clearly this camera is more important to you becuase you can’t WAIT for it, while I still have to WAIT for you? How about because I was hoping to give you this gift because I knew that it was something you really wanted, and something I couldn’t normally afford to give you, and now I am out of gift ideas for you?
So after some exchange, he goes on to say that he only recommended the camera as a gift idea, (actually I recommended it, but whatever), because at the time it was something he wanted, but he didn’t want to spend the money on it. But, now he’s sure he wants it enough to spend his OWN money on it.
Fine, get your camera.
A few texts later… “well I was going to ask you if we can put it on your card since my limit is only 300 but if that will bother you I can just pay outright.”
You just told me that you wanted it bad enough to a) not wait for it, and b) pay for it yourself. I called BS, and long story short – he didn’t buy the camera yesterday.
And yet… women… are the illogical, irrational ones.