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Busy bee
Post # 5

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Busy bee
@6598731ssfse3: & @MrsNerdy: I guess I should take out the rant and leave the question so I’ll get honest opinions rather than attacks.
Post # 6

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Buzzing bee
…. I guess thats one way of looking at it….
Post # 7

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Bumble bee
I picked out both my engagement ring and my promise ring. Why do I have them? He wanted to buy them for me. Did I pick out the best he could afford? I sure did. He wouldn’t have settled for less.
Pretty simple.
Post # 8

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Bumble bee
What’s an engagement trip?
I think it isn’t fair to expect your SO to give you an engagement ring that is far beyond his budget. I think it’s foolish to finance a ring. If he is having to finance it, he is spending too much on it. My ring is modest compared to others(1/2 carat) but I absolutely love it. We picked it out together and I knew it was in his budget.
I think as long as you are realistically living within your means, who cares? This goes for anything in life though imo.
Post # 9

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Bee Keeper
Because society expects them? That’s why it’s “important”…
Post # 10

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Busy bee
@nursemel: haha it’s not an official term, just i’d rather have the thousands of dollars that was supposed to go towards the ring go towards a vacation instead. I agree with what you say completely.
I remember seeing this show on TV called Princess (not sure if you have it in the states) and this girl who’s in debt put her bf in debt from buying her a $10k engagement ring! he never had any debt prior to that. Another girl was trying to convince her bf that her ring should be a year’s worth of his income!
Post # 11

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Buzzing bee
Why are we doing this so much lately?!
These divisive posts are driving me nuts.
Post # 12

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Honey bee
@kerpao: its very important to me because he got on one knee and asked me to be his wife and put that engagement ring on my finger as an everyday reminder of how he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. i was not concerned with having an expensive ring i did not want him breaking the bank for my Ering and i did not pick it out. i didn’t even know he was going to propose until he did. but he got me a beautiful e ring 5/8 carat total weight and i love it. its very sentimental to me it definitely a love token. i never take it off.
Post # 13

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Buzzing Beekeeper
i think it’s ok to want a ring you will be proud to wear, and as long as the guy is ok with spending however much it is, and doesn’t go into debt it’s ok to spend as much on a ring as you both feel comfortable with 🙂
i picked my ring, my dream ring, it was $8850, my Fiance paid 50% as a deposit, and then the rest when he picked it up. and yes i made sure it was ok with him to spend that much to get me that ring
Post # 14

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Worker bee
Your “how important is a ring” question is different without the rant. I would be fine getting engaged with no ring and only wearing a wedding band. I would be fine having an inexpensive ring that was durable and nice-looking. I would probably not be fine wearing something I found hideous, for the rest of my life.
Post # 15

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Helper bee
I could be wrong, but after reading this I think she’s just trying to say that if she loves her SO then she’d say yes even though he doesn’t go all out in buying her an expensive e-ring. Not everyone has enough money for something like this but the value of love is priceless.
I do love my e-ring though 🙂
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Honey Beekeeper
This topic has been closed at the request of the OP.