- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
So here’s the deal. I’ve had pretty much every type of waiting day, from the excited to the emotional wreck. Today is just one of those “blah” ones when you ask yourself, “Why doesn’t he just do it already?”
You see, I’m a planner. I love setting goals for myself (both personally and professionally) and exceeding them, just for the heck of it. It’s just my nature, so you can only imagine how frustrating this whole engagement thing is for someone like me.
I just realized that our two year anniversary is tomorrow, and that I have essentially been waiting the entire time we’ve been dating. I knew that if he proved to be as great as he seemed on our first date, that I would marry him one day. Well, here we are…He’s proved himself nothing but amazing.
I have to admit, I bring up getting engaged (to him) more than I know I should…I just can’t help it! It’s something that I wish I had some control over because it’s making me a crazy person. As in, I already know which ring I want (like….the EXACT ring), and I’ve already been looking at dresses to see what style I like, etc. etc.
Currently, we both have student loans, live with our parents (saving $), and he finally just got the job he’s been trying to get for the past couple of years. He wants to move out as soon as possible (which I totally understand), However, since his parents are nice enough to let him live in their house for free – I don’t see the rush, at least for a few more months.
So here is where my personality got the best of me. I came up with this plan for him: Get THE job. Save money for at least 6 months for e-ring and rent, then move out. (Oh, did I fail to mention that he knows I don’t want to move in with him before we’re engaged? Oops!). Of course, knowing me, I told him all of this. His response was along the lines of “Are you telling me how to spend my money?” Which pissed me off, but at the same time, I can’t say that wasn’t what I was doing.
It just makes so much sense to me to live at home as long as your parents are willing to let you stay. Once you’re married, you’re never going to live anywhere for free again. I know he’s antsy to get out of their house, since he got really used to not being there in college. But still, what’re a few more months. In my mind, if he doesn’t spend the money to move out and pay rent, the e-ring would essentially be “free.”
I didn’t write this to bash my boyfriend. He is a really sweet guy who has made it abundantly clear that he wants to marry me. I love everything about him. I’m just frustrated with this whole waiting game.
Anyone else relate to my situation? Advice, stories, suggestions welcome 🙂