(Closed) I told him that I've had it up to "here" *Vent*

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I really have nothing more to say except I am send a virtual hug your way and that I’ll be keeping my fingers crossed that you two can have a calm rational discussion about everything tomorrow. We all blow up sometimes and I really hope you guys will it work it all out Smile *hugs*

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Oh boy… ๐Ÿ™

Just to tell you, my man told me a white lie.. that the proposal would happen “next year” just to throw me off track.. and he ended up proposing to me 3 days after we had a conversation with some tension.. and he had that planned all along..!  I felt like an arse..

I know you’re frustrated, my dear & it’s totally understandable.  But wouldn’t you secretly feel better knowing that your man asked you on his own terms.. and that he wasn’t “forced” into doing it soon?  Perhaps he’s thinking of a good way to propose to you (it’s stressful for a man..!).. or he’s ordered the ring but it hasn’t come in yet?

Best of luck to you.. good things come to those who wait ๐Ÿ˜‰

Also, however tempting it is… try not to say such hurtful things in the heat of the moment..!  I had to learn the hard way :T  You just end up having to fix everything you said later on and it SUCKS..

Post # 5
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Worker bee

CloverPinder sounds like you and I are in a similar space right now. I just posted a vent about being upset and feeling resentful towards my boyfriend because we are not engaged or living together. We haven’t been talking for the past day either. 

I don’t have any advice, but I do know exactly how you feel. It sounds like your situation is a bit more stressful since you wont be able to move with him unless he proposes. That would stress me out too. Men seem to like to wait until the very last second to do these things though. I’m sure its on his mind and he loves you very much.

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I posted one too about feeling resentful and angry. I know how you feel – just try and talk calmly about things (haha like I’m one to tell people how to talk) and have faith that when it’s your time to leave you will just know. And until then, try to be your regular self, the person he’d like to marry.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have to say, your rant toward him was pretty harsh but I think NECESSARY. Sometimes you have to tell a man to act like one!

Post # 9
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Helper bee

No real advice here except I know your pain and I completely understand where you are coming from. Once and awhile I have an outburst like that as well its all the pent up anger and frusteration and no one can blame you for it. Its real tough having people getting engaged around you, hell i’m going to a wedding tonight and its going to be pretty tough for me to get through. I used to love occassions like these but now that I am in this waiting phase its hard to enjoy them I just get sulky. Hang in there girl I wish you the best of luck and I hope he comes around.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I’m so sorry for you; I think your feelings are COMPLETELY understandable and honestly if it were me I’d be ending it. You deserve someone who is excited and eager to get engaged to you, not someone who is dragging his feet. Not that I blame a man for being unwilling to commit; but I do blame him (general “him,” not your SO in particular) for not being honest about his unwillingness and not being mature enough to admit it.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I think it’s wise to set a deadline. Hopefully he’s just been lazy and will get his butt in gear soon!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

He’s comfortable discussing the ring and the financial situation.. I’d definitely be happy! ๐Ÿ™‚  Was this the first time you’ve really blown up at him?  I think it did some good haha.!

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