(Closed) I told him what I expect… Which isn’t much, btw.

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

thats really good you were able to discuss it I think.

Im sure whatever ring, whatever the price you will love it. 🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

That’s great! Really great about warning him about the friend’s wife.LOL I hope the wait is shorter now for you!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Hi Gwen, was wondering where you went. I’m going to be so happy when J proposes. I’ve been following your stories 🙂

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’ve been seeing that a lot lately on these boards.  People are planning their weddings without the engagement.  People are booking halls and getting caters.  I’m glad your the level headed one in the relationship.  I think what you are doing is perfect.  Its fun to see the guy acting like the girl.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Good for you. I’m glad you were able to say, hey let’s focus on getting engaged first before we focus on the reception. Also by making the comment on the price of the ring, being something he can afford, he can’t make price of the ring an excuse for not proposing. Once again good for you.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I heartily agree with 7mom! Awesome use of redirection. It keeps him focused on engagement instead of skipping right into the fun wedding details.

As an aside, am I just really freaking old or do I live under a rock or something? When did three months salary become the norm for an e-ring budget? I just did the math and I would have a fit if Fiance spent that much on my ring.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Ms. Pink Scrubs: It’s a De Beers tactic to get a guy to spend more on a diamond. I would kill SO if he spent 3 months salary on a rock.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Miss Tattoo: I have some pretty harsh opinions of the De Beers “cartel” so I’m not surprised to hear such a ludicrous standard would come from them.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think engagements have something special about them when you wait to plan the wedding until after. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with flirting with the idea of planning so good for you for setting a boundary on the things that are important to you! Good luck! Can’t wait to hear more of the story you two are telling!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m glad he’s on the same page with you.  Now for the ring!!  Good Luck!

Post # 14
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Newbee

@Gwen von D:

Funny, but I had this conversation with my Boyfriend or Best Friend this weekend as well.  He was bringing up how we will file our taxes once we are married, how we will manage with my going back to school and his being my husband… TIME OUT!  You must propose to me first! I told him that I love talking, but I cannot and will not plan my future on words alone.  He’s had the ring for a month now, and I finally told him that all of this talk with no action is rather mean.  He talks about our getting married every day.  It’s become quite frustrating.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Like some of the PPs, I also think you and J have an interesting relationship — he keeps bringing up wedding stuff and you keep asking him to stop!  🙂  I, too, have been following your posts since I joined the ‘Bee a few months ago, and I am going to do a happy dance when he finally does ask you. 

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