- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
and she actually took it well! We’re not exactly 100% certain about eloping but since she was finally excited about booking her flight, I had to mention it. I have to say that my Mother can be very difficult to deal with and I am pretty damned proud of myself for just going out and telling her so frankly.
One of the main reasons why I want to elope is that she expects a vacation while staying here for 2-3 weeks … during our wedding! She’ll likely come by herself so I will be expected to play tour guide. She also isn’t used to small quarters and we live in an apartment with our den converted into a small guest room (basically looks like a computer room with an added twin bed). She would also be misterable in our small town, she likes big cities.
I told her the truth: that we’re not exactly sure what our plans are yet and we’re thinking of eloping instead so no one will be inconvenienced. Upon her asking what happened to my urging her to come to my wedding (and sounding a little annoyed about my indecisiveness, which I must admit, I am) I proceeded to tell her the truth, and hardly even sugar-coated it.
I told her that it’ll be too stressful to show her around for 3-weeks during our wedding. That 3-weeks will be too long! She will be bored. She says she’ll will stay 2-weeks then!!! I continued my stance and said if she wants a vacation, then I will be more than happy to show her around during a vacation period, when we are both free … just not on my wedding. I told her she’s welcome to come on another time, but to not expect a vacation during our wedding. It will be too stressful for us.
She started to understand … thank goodness! She did mention a couple of times about just wanting to come to the wedding, but being so far away and costing so much just for airfare, it will be impossible for her to come without me showing her around. So I continued to pitch the visiting some other time idea. I told her to come in the summer where the sun’s out in the night … so I can show her around properly.
It finally ended with her asking me to check for deals during the summer.
I wish she realized without me saying anything, but at least she knows now because it could’ve only gotten more complicated. Even if we end up not eloping, we’re all on the same page.
It lifted a few lbs off my back for sure!