Post # 17
I have a daughter that is on an IEP. I can’t imagine just burying my head in the sand about her learning difficulties no matter how much I want to. It’s not drastic but enough that she needs help at school.
IMO it would be like having a child that can’t walk and insisting that they’ll be fine…they don’t need a wheelchair…they’ll learn to do without. Totally wrong and not fair to the child!
As for people saying that kids scream…we’re not even talking about the same thing. Kids with sensory overload don’t just scream and then stop. Usually it is in addition to an almost sheer panic (sometimes violent) and quite frequently screaming something like ‘STOP’ (depending on age) long after the noise is over. They are completely overwhelmed and can’t function…sometimes for hours after.
My suggestion would be to have your sister and niece come over and at some point randomly play the song that you are using with the drumbeat. Make sure it is fairly loud as it will be for your wedding. That should give you your answer and your sister will not be able to deny it.
Post # 18
@Luayne: “As for people saying that kids scream…we’re not even talking about the same thing.”
YES, Exactly. While baking her cake, we had to bring her into her bedroom because the noise of the electric mixer makes her break down. She’s almost inconsolable when she’s responding to loud/louder-than-normal sounds. It’s definitely not the same thing as a normal kid just having an outburst.
@rebwana: This is a great idea! I don’t live near my niece though… and I don’t think my sister would put forth the effort at all. :
@ChicFoodist: These are great ideas! Thank you 🙂
Post # 19
@LadyMoriarty: As a Mom I would not be upset in any way by the way you handled the situation. You seem very caring and you obviously love your niece. I’d buy them and pray your sister gets over herself in order to help your niece.
Post # 20
- Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle
@LadyMoriarty: I really hope your sister come around. It sounds like her daughter will be much happier if the earmuffs are on standby. Not to mention she’ll be cute as a button if they match her dress and she’s actually able to enjoy herself without hearing the loud noises.
Post # 21
I think some of the sanctimommies on here are over reacting just a bit. If a non-family member brought that up to me, yes I would be offended. BUt from a sister, my child’s aunt who loves her…she has every right to be kind and look out.
Since you brought it up once and it didn’t work there isn’t much else you can do. You can suggest, but you can’t force. I would keep a pair of ear covers on stand-by with someone who will be seated next to your niece.
Post # 22
@LadyMoriarty: Who is her favorite cartoon character. I would buy her a pair of those earmuff. You can go on Ebay and find cheap Dora/Bubble Guppies/Spongebob ear muffs.
The way I see it, you love your niece. I would call your sister and tell her ‘I do not want her being scared. I dont’ want to hurt her ears further. She can either wear these during the ceremony or for her protection she is going to have to sit in the very back of the venue”.
Tell her sister two things:
1) You dont want your niece afriad.
2) YOu don’t want to have your other gueats upset either.