(Closed) I want 1 of 3 sisters in my party, Mom wants to cater to the brat sister…

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
6019 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

@ImperialRed:  It’s your choice who you have in your bridal party. Let your mom know that you are choosing those closest to you and that your mind is made up. If you are old enough to get married, you are old enough to stand up to mom and dad about something like a member of your bridal party. Also, this will set the stage so that for the rest of wedding planning you can make it clear that this day is about you and your fiance. You aren’t trying to exclude her completely so I don’t see why this would be a problem.

Post # 4
3771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

Most people here are going to say its your wedding pick who you want. I think it will be way more drama than it is worth. I would include her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, tell her what dress to buy, where to be and leave it at that. She has no other respoibilites than show up that day, if she can’t do that and be there on time she will just have to sit with the other guests.


Post # 5
2934 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

@ieatunicorns:  +1 I agree with this. Ask her but don’t focus any attention on her. If she buys the dress and shows up on time, cool. If she doesn’t buy the dress, oh well, she sits with the other guests on the day. If she complains about the dress, just say, “That’s fine. You don’t have to be a bridesmaid if you don’t want to wear the dress.” You can CHOOSE not to let her be the center of attention.

Post # 6
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ImperialRed:  I think your damned either way.

If you ask her, she will be a pain in the ass for the wedding. Would it be worth it?

Or you “*could* have her in the wedding, have a strong Maid/Matron of Honor to deal with her, block her from wedding planning and just let her know what dress to buy.


Post # 7
1828 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013


@Jijitattoo:  The problem I see happening with this though is she shows up late and still insists on walking up to the front so all the attention would be on her! She sounds like she might be selfish enough to do it!


If you’re paying for the wedding then do what you want to do. 

Post # 8
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ieatunicorns:  +1

Appease her, but don’t give any responsibilities.

Post # 9
2934 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

@Luayne:  If the OP genuinely believes that she can see where this is going, and that it’s going to be bad and disruptive of her happiness, then I totally support her NOT having the brat sister in the wedding party.

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