(Closed) I want a baby, but at the same time we aren\'t ready.

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Honey bee

kirann:  it’s always possible to get pregnant when you have unprotected sex……

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

It’s always possible to get pregnant when you have any kind of sex…

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Stop having unprotected sex if you can’t have a baby now. “If it happens, it happens” means that you are basically trying for a baby. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

There is always a chance.. be careful if you aren’t ready.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

kirann:  Yes, anything is possible. However, if you’re using your birth control correctly AND he pulled out then the statistical liklihood that you’re pregnant is slim to none (like, less than 1%). 

I think you should wait until you’re ready to have a baby before becoming pregnant. 

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

If you are taking birth control pills as directed, it is unlikely you would be pregnant, and even less so if he pulls out in addition to the pill. However, if you really do not want to be pregnant now, don’t say, “if it happens, it happens.” Pregnancy occurs due to very real, predictable reasons, not due to destiny or fate. So take birth control pills as directed (the same time each day) and use a second, reliable form of birth control. Pregnancy is a much, much better experience when you are ready for it.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Why do you want a baby if you aren’t ready?

Seriously.  Are you that selfish?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Be more responsible with birth control options if you know you’re not ready to be a mother. Don’t be selfish and bring a human into the world that you know you can’t take care of … Also if you aren’t mature enough to know that unprotected sex (no matter if on the pill, they aren’t 100% effective and the pull out method doesnt count as a contraseptive) could possibly lead to pregnancy you definitely aren’t ready to be a mother … 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Devil’s advocate here. Why are you advising OP to be more responsible with birth control options when she always uses the pill and the pullout method? That’s more than the vast majority of women use who aren’t ready for pregnancy.

OP, you’re doing great! You’ll be fine. Nearly every woman in the world has had that question in her mind at some point or another (“Could I be pregnant?”), and it’s totally natural to want a baby when you’re not ready for one quite yet.

On another note… Are you ever really ready for a baby? I’ve heard so many parents tell me, “You’re NEVER ready for a baby! So have one anyway…”

Either way, relax. Have some hot tea. Take a bath. Kiss your Fiance. You guys are fine.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

What do you mean by “highly fertile?” I’m genuinely curious, no snark here.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

olivejd:  +1. Also, contrary to popular belief, if you are truly ‘ on the pill'( meaning taking it as directed) it is hard to get pregnant even if he doesn’t pull out!

It drives me CRAZY when people say ” oh I was on the pill” when they really mean  ” i wasnt actually taking it as directed/skipped a bunch”.  then you ARENT ON THE PILL! LOL

 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Take your pills every day, and continue doing the pullout method (or consider condoms) because it makes your possibility of getting pregnant even lower. Absolutely plan for your baby, don’t just say it may happen. When you plan and let everything have a date and time, it is so much more relaxing to wake up and do your thing every day. Your wedding is in june 2018. Focus on that: what are you trying to accomplish before then? Job? Degree? House? Dream venue? Dream body? Dream budget? Work towards your goals, and plan to not have to throw a baby into the mix. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Yeah, how do you know you are “highly fertile”? Do you have other kids? Have you been pregnant before?

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wouldn’t call having sex while taking birth control pills AND pulling out to be “unprotected.” I wouldn’t even call having sex and just using birth control pills unprotected, either. I think the OP’s chances of pregnancy are extremely low. Like basically no chance.

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