Post # 17
Yes, I think your feelings are normal and that many women feel this way at some point in their lives. My DH and I just got married and we never even planned on having any children, but my sister recently having a baby kinda made me want to have one (still don’t want to naturally though). If we do ever have a child, we agreed that it’d be through adoption cuz I don’t think I could ever handle pregnancy or childbirth and I’d like to be able to help a child have a home.
Anyway, I say that the decision is your and your FI’s to make, but it’s better to raise a child in a financially stable environment. I don’t know how long you guys have been together either, but you should also allow yourselves time to enjoy being together just the two of you since babies require so much time and attention.
Post # 18
I’ve been feeling the exact same way. I don’t know where it came from considering I’m one of the few toddlerphobic people I know and I didn’t think I’d want a baby for a really long time. In the last like year though, I’ve just gotten massive baby fever. And I’m only 20 (21 next week) and halfway through pharmacy school. I’ve talked to the Fiance and he’s just as baby fevery as I am. Right now we think our plan is to get married in May and then wait a year and then just kinda let whatever happens happen. If I get pregnant at that time, I’ll be pregnant for my second to last year of school and then have a baby for the last year (which is all rotations), so we thought it would be doable. For now we just treat our cats like our babies.
Post # 19
You should try to conceive whenever is right for YOU! Don’t listen to a timeframe.
Post # 20
I say focus on geting married, finish school, pass the bar…and then evaluate your situation then..if you and your SO are ready, Go for it!
I know how you feel, I’ve had crazy baby fever on/off for the last year. I was doing pretty good until last week, a co-worker of mine (mother of twins) asked me to accompany her to a baby designer sample sale…I was drooling over tiny cashmere sweaters for a little girl…ever since then my fever has been VERY high lol DH & I want to wait until a year from our wedding (will be June 2012) to get our finances together, before we begin ttc…so I know now is not the right time =(
Post # 21
I see where you are coming from. I was in a VERY simular situation. I was 26 when I got married and right after our wedding was looking for a job. There was so much “blank” time of un known and nothing to look forward to after our wedding. I dont know what your medical concerns are as far as TTC, but I understand that conern. I also have “issues” that are un known to TTC (because we have not tried yet) but even once I am pregnant will “change” things and some things will be a little more dificult. With that, I waited….Got married, found a job, bought a house…and NOW after all that is out of the way we are evaluating when we want to TTC now. I am very glad we did. I am not going to lie, I still worry about my chances and how hard it may be for me to convieve once we try, but I felt having some order in my life and being established and LOVING our “us” time was better than rushing in to something over my fears. Best of lcuk with your career and the bar. Thats a big deal! ; )