- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Hey ladies! I’ve got a question.
So I think it would be super sweet if someone who knows both of us as a couple to become ordained and officate the wedding. FH thinks its really tacky and untraditional. He knows that it’s a common thing people do, but he still perceives it in a really negative way and has strong feelings against it.
Since I don’t have AS strong of feelings for some “stranger” to officiate the wedding, I decided to give in to him and I’m okay with it.
I just thought of a way we could both be happy. Maybe we could have important people in our lives (our parents, etc), do readings of their choice to honor us and our marriage. However, instead of this being just an element in the ceremony, I’d like it to be MOST of the ceremony. Most of the ceremony will consist of our parents and other people blessing us and reading etc etc, with a few words or a reading said by the officiant at the end.
FH likes this idea. Now my question is: what do officiants usually say at weddings?? I need to know our family is covering all the “bases” here and not just reading poems and scriptures that they find important. I’ve never been to an American wedding before so all I know is the couple says their vows, put the rings on each others fingers, kiss, and walk back down the aisle.
ETA: It’ll be a nonreligious ceremony. I think his parents may choose to read something from the bible which is okay with us, but we’re nonreligious.