(Closed) I Want a Puppy Damnit!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I hear what you are saying but I know I was really busy leading up to my wedding and I wouldn’t have wanted to deal with a new puppy during that. Plus, you have to worry about someone taking care of it while you are away etc. It might not be a bad idea to wait. I don’t know if you have your heart set on something, but I hope you are considering adoption as well ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It’s only a few months- does he know what type of puppy you want?

My dad got my mom a puppy for christmas one year (before kids) and he researched and got her exactly what she wanted- a show quality pom which she went on to show and he actually won competitions so my dad obviously did well.

If you are confident that he knows what you want I’d let him do this for you.  

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

One of my friends got a puppy about 3 months before her wedding, it mangaged to get into the guestroom, rip her dress and then pee on it. I know its hard, (I want a puppy too!) But its probably easier to wait.

P.S I wish my Fi would accidentally tell me cool stuff in his sleep. He just yells and flails and sometimes whacks me in his sleep.

Post # 6
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996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@Roux: LOL @ yells, flails and whacks. Mine farts and snores.

Post # 7
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1227 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Whoa. I could have written this post. It sounds exactly like how I’ve felt sometimes with my FI! I too had to wait for him to be ready to move in together and propose, and now to get a puppy! Sometimes that makes it feel like he gets to call all of the major shots in our relationship, and it sucks. God only knows what it will be like when I’m ready to have kids and he needs more time ๐Ÿ˜›

However – what PPs said is true. Having a new puppy on top of getting ready for a wedding seems like a *lot* of extra stress. On the other hand, I still want one anyway!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Awww I feel your pain. That is a long wait. Hopefully it will just fly by and you will get you (puprise) and all will be good.

 

What kind of pup do you want? Just wondering. I’m sure it will be a very lucky pup indeed! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

OMG!! Don’t get a puppy yet!! I did the same thing, I wanted a puppy SO bad, I went out and got one.. that was almost a year ago… and some days I SO wish I hadn’t done that. Granted we make it work, and most the time she’s SO cute, but I really would consider how much work it is to be a pack leader with only four months to go until one of the biggest days of your life! There’s potty training, sleepless nights from puppy crying, obedience training, dog food, poop bags, attention hogging, throw up, fleas…. 

 

When we first got our pup she had a BAD infestation of mites, we had to visit the vet FOUR times before they gave us a solution that worked (and that was AFTER she scratched herself so bad she got a huge infection and had to be sedated so they could clean it [read: vet bills!]), what was the solution? Raw dog food, which mind you, costs $3.50/day! Not only did we just pay to get the puppy, the licensing, the shots and all the accessories, now we have vet bills and she eats better than we do! It was a lot of stress, both mentally and financially, and totally unexpected. 

I guess what I’m trying to say here is that you just never know what could happen with a puppy, and I would only hope that if something like what we had to deal with came up for you two, that it wouldn’t be too hard to handle with all the stresses of the wedding and everything…

oh, and btw, boarding is EXPENSIVE! How long was your honeymoon again? You might have to pay to board your dog, unless it’s under four months, in which case you have to find a sitter…. just saying, lots of things you don’t think about because they’re just so darn cute! 

 

Here are some pics of our poor pup after she was sedated and shaved:  (ETA: Sorry they’re huge, I thought I resized them….)

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Mrs Hedgehog: umm… he originally told me we could think about one when had been mariedd a year. I went ot the animla shelter in January and then made him meet me there. I’ve had Virgil for nearly two months now.

 

ETA: we got him as an adult. He’s five years old. Having a puppy might be different, but I knew I wanted to rescue an adult anyway.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I agree with those saying WAIT! The wedding is only 4 months away! That’s so close and if you get a puppy now you won’t be able to enjoy it properly. I like to have one exciting thing in my life at a time and a wedding is pretty exciting!

What would you do with the puppy on the wedding day? You couldn’t have it with you and family would all be at the wedding. What would you do with it on your honeymoon? It would only be 4/5months old, you don’t want to miss any part of that puppy time – they grow up so fast!

They do cost a lot and you never know what could happen with one, so after the wedding you can put all (well, most) of your attention and energy into the puppy where as now you’d just be juggling everything.

You could always look into breeds/breeders now and possibly put an order for a puppy in? That’s a good compromise.

But then again, it would be such an awesome “surprise” wedding present.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I love puppies!  I am so excited for you!  I think it is very sweet that he wants to surprise you with one.  However, if it were me I would want to go and pick out the puppy together, too. 

I’m going to get on the “wait” train.  We have on beautiful 2 year old dog who we rescued when she was about 9 mos. old.  Every day something around the house got destroyed.  We got hardly any sleep.  It’s a LOT of work.  Not to mention the boarding costs.  I honestly would wait until after the wedding.

I’m pushing hard for a second dog.  We’re going to wait until after the wedding because it will be CRAZY with two!!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I got our second puppy 4 months before our wedding, the day before our wedding shower. We were in the process of remodeling our home as well. It was hard, but I wouldn’t change a thing. You have to be 100% dedicated and understand that you will get no sleep for the first two months that the puppy is around. You live will need to revolve around the puppy. I was able to do it because I only moved around the corner from my mother. So every last minute vendor appointment and all the wedding stuff I had someone to help me out, but if you are home during the day it shouldn’t be a problem. Also, will you have time for obedience school and who will watch the puppy when you go on your honeymoon?

It can definetly be done, but please understand that it is a huge adjustment.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree with others – WAIT.  It will be a serious pain in the ass trying to plan a wedding with a puppy around.  I think that my largest concern from you is that you might not realize that you can’t be away from the house for more than 4 hours usually – especially if you get a smaller dog.  You can’t go on weekend trips, you can’t go on multiple vendor meetings without going home between them.  Once you get a puppy, EVERYTHING revolves around this puppy.  I sacraficed a lot of my social life when I got a puppy, and my life STILL (after almost 2 years) revolves around this dogs schedule.

It’s a serious commitment – and if your Fiance isn’t ready, it’s going to be even harder because you’re going to be doing it on your own.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

@breezybri19: awww poor puppy buns. ๐Ÿ™ I hope he/she is doing much better. What a cutie

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