(Closed) I want a wedding party- not a "reception"

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 47
226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  Yes! This is the attitude I have in my planning. I’m glad I am far from the only one. More time for dancing!

Post # 48
6533 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

This is also my goal!

Post # 50
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  We are having a civil ceremony in a little venue that provides champagne toast after. Then, everyone (about 48 people) are invited to drop by for a party at our little condo lol There will be tons of food in crockpots and on tables (buffet style), wine and local beers, but no dancing (it is not a big condo), no bouquet tossing (I don’t even want  a bouquet), no money thing (we are asking for donations to a charity instead of gifts), etc. I just don’t like big sitting dinners and all the fuss. I think it is great for people who likes doing or organizing it, but we wanted to make that day about our families, who live very far from both of us and who will be there for 2 days. To each their own 🙂 

Post # 51
365 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014


We are skipping everything you are, we keep referring to our wedding as “our Big Bash”.  I think we will have a cake on the dessert station but no cake cutting.  FMIL definintely wants a mother son dance so they will be doing that.  I’m not doing a father daughter dance as my dad is deceased and I am not doing a substitute.  We don’t want a bride/groom dance but feel that we should do something to kind of kick off party-time so we’re toying with inviting our closest family & friends to all share a dance to a fun song.  And we’re toying with the idea of having a surprise marching band come do a lap around the room at some point.

Post # 52
1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@MichiganGirl24:  Can you talk my Fiance into your way of thinking? Because that would be amazing!

I’m not doing a Bouquet toss. I flat our refuse. In fact, I don’t even want to carry a Bouquet in the ceremony. I’d rather pick a book I love and that I already own and just carry that instead. And garter toss? HELL-to-the-NO!

I don’t want to do the big entrance either. Not sure if Fiance will be onboard with that or not, but fingers crossed. Already know that Fiance wants the traditional dances you listed, so I’m willing to compromise on that and do it.

All that stuff can be really nice at other receptions. If it makes the couple happy and they really want to include them than I say go for it. I just don’t want them at mine.

Post # 53
1899 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MichiganGirl24:  I felt just like you did about my wedding/reception/”party.” I personally am not a fan of many of the wedding reception traditions and wanted a more chill/lounge vibe.

For traditions, we kept:

1. Cake cutting/feeding the bride/groom

2. Favors/guest book/couple photo table.

3. Floral centerpieces

4. I carried a bouquet into the venue and wore a white albeit short dress.

For venue, we had our “party” at a restaurant/lounge in their event space. It was great. We had open bar all night and lots of very yummy food served in house.

I posted a recap back in November if you are interested.

Post # 55
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I did the bouquet/garter toss (though not the removal of the garter, which I personally find totally icky–I just bought a cheapy one from the store to throw!), but I attached gift certificates to each. This made it more of a fun activity a lot of people wanted to participate in than an awkward ritual a lot of people don’t want to do. There were actually a lot of people who were already married or engaged trying to catch them, lol. And it made the old folks happy!

Post # 57
4113 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  I feel like this. I find wedding receptions to be so boring and they’re frankly, all more or less the same.

We’re skipping the majority of the typical reception elements as well.

  • No bouquet toss/ garter toss.
  • No formal champagne toast, but there will be a formal toast made by my Fiance and I and champagne will be available..
  • Our party is a cocktail style one with lots of passed apps and a raw bar.
  • No wedding cake at all let alone a cake cutting. I’m doing a macaron tower, and assorted desserts from the venue.
  • No favors, we’re sending our thank you notes with a pretty USB key that will have some of our favorite song from the reception.
  • Definitely no ‘dash for cash/ dollar dance’.. I don’t even know what those are but I don’t really want to either.
  • We’re doing a first dance, only because a friend of the family is playing my favorite song for us. Skipping father/ daughter, mother/ son.

We’re describing our wedding as, an awesome party that two people happen to be getting married at. Neither of us are traditional in any sense and we tend to find the traditional wedding stuff boring.

Post # 58
616 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MichiganGirl24:  We felt the same way. So we had our wedding in a non-traditional venue and skipped all the expected “events.” We did have favors, that doubled as seating assignments. And I felt strongly about DH and I giving a thank you speech. We didn’t have a “head table” in the traditional sense, since we had no bridal party. We sat with our parents. We had a family-style meal and pie for dessert. 

Photos are here.


Post # 59
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA

@MichiganGirl24:  I skipped the garter/boquet toss! I didnt do favors! We didnt dance, or have music in fact we had a football game on while i was cutting the cake haha. And then some of the guys went out and played touch football. It was more fun and enjoyable without the “Formalities” of it all. We had pulled pork and the guys grilled hot dogs and hamburgers. It was super fun and it was fun seeing everyone mingle and have fun.

Post # 61
959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  I’m doing the same, and actually, the way you’re doing it has waaaay more history than all the annoying “traditions” of today (notice that almost all the traditions require you buying things?)

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