(Closed) I want a wedding party- not a "reception"

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 62
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@KC-2722:  “No favors, we’re sending our thank you notes with a pretty USB key that will have some of our favorite song from the reception.” This is one of the most clever, thoughtful favors I’ve heard of. Really great idea! So useful but also personal since you can put music/photos.

Post # 64
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@Syzygy88:  Thank you! We’re hoping to get some pics back from the wedding in time to be able to add a couple pics for each couple/ person, wishful thinking but we’ll see.

My mom found the idea in a magazine but it was a wedding favor, we figured we could skip favors and make the thank you’s a bit more personal. USBs are surprisingly cheap too!

Post # 65
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@KC-2722:  Such a good idea – I bet your guests remember that for a long time. I would!

Post # 66
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We are doing basically the same thing.  Just a big party!!! We will be doing the first dance and father/daughter and mother/son dances but that’s only because my dad and his mom would be disappointed if we didn’t.  But no, garter/bouquet toss, no cake cutting, none of that.  Just a lot of good music, food and fun times!!!  I can’t wait!

Post # 67
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MichiganGirl24 this is great!! I think there are always so many expectations to do certain things for “traditions sake.”  Its YOUR wedding, make it what you want it to be and don’t worry about what anything else thinks.  We are doing a first dance, but are avoiding the cake cutting, garter, dollar dance, etc.  We too, are focused on having a great time.  We love good food, so there will be plenty of that, then lots of dancing.  I think the reception should reflect who you are as individuals and a couple. 


Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We aren’t having a full bridal party with equal numbers of bridesmaids and groomsmen. We’re not doing a garter toss, but I am going to throw a bouquet. I won’t be doing cake pulls (which is a thing down here). We are having a money dance at the request of my grandparents, who are footing much of the bill. I did end up going with floral centerpieces, though, solely because it was actually cheaper than going the DIY route since the florist gave us such a good deal.

Post # 68
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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CarolinaCola:  I feel the exact same way about dancing, and there really isnt room for a dance floor. So how did yours go? 

Post # 69
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Bumble bee

Sounds ideal. I dislike most of the traditional reception elements.

No bouquet toss

No garter toss

No dollar dance- but that’s not really done in the UK<br />No first dance <br />No father/daughter mother/son dances<br />Afternoon tea instead of a formal sitdown wedding breakfast<br />Small wedding cake and we’ll cut it 

Short toasts with bubbly<br />But we’re having a backyard wedding so we can just chill out with friends and family and enjoy being Mr and Mrs.

Post # 70
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Buzzing bee

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cbgg:  The last wedding I went to did this. Endless dances. Then they served the food then we had the tosses and the dollar dance and by 9:30 or was it 10 we still hadn’t danced yet and I was falling asleep at the table. We left. it was dull.

I am not having a boquet toss/garter toss. My peeps are too old and mostly everyone is married.

I dont want a dollar dance. I find it tacky.

We will have a cake cutting and our first dance.

But now that people have mentioned it I wonder if I want to have the entrance annoucement. I kinda think they are dumb and if I could get around it that would be nice.

Post # 71
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Bumble bee

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VictorianChick:  We aren’t doing an announcement. During the cocktail hour, Fiance and I will take about 20 mins. to take pictures with family/friends, then join our guests. Five minutes before the cocktail hour ends, one family member will give a toast, then we all go to our tables to eat. Boom. Done.

Post # 72
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Buzzing bee

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Xu:  Like it. 

I truly hate being the center of attention. Everyone knows who I am. The weddingi s going to be under 100 people. I’m no princess, ya know?

Post # 73
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Bumble bee

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VictorianChick:  I totally get it. Fiance and I half-joke with each other on ways to divert attention from us. Which, of course, will be impossible. 🙂  We’re trying to keep things easy going though. We’re having our ceremony and reception in one place, so that helps things. Also:

  • We plan to mingle with guests prior to the ceremony, thank them for coming, etc. It will be in the morning and everyone will be served champagne cocktails. Because, reasons.
  • At the invitation time, we’ll make our way to the dancefloor, over by the officiant, the DJ will lower the music and make an annoucement that the ceremony will begin. We expect our ceremony to be about 15 to 20 mins.
  • Right after the ceremony, the DJ will annouce that they can get more cocktails at the bar, etc. Fiance and I will go somewhere to take pics for about 15 to 20 mins. Then come back to have more cocktails with guest, mingle, thank more people for coming.
  • Last five minutes: Toast. Sit down for food. Then about an hour later do a first dance (I didn’t want to do it, but got talked into it by our DJ and a good friend) but the song will be shortened to about 1 min. then the dance floor is open.

We do plan to do a cake cutting, but other than that, there will be no bouquet/garter toss, money dances, etc. We really have ZERO desire to be the center of attention. We just want to get married and enjoy the company of the people we love.

Post # 74
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think the only tradition we followed was toasts and ring exchange.  We didnt do any tossing of anything, didn’t have favors or an “entrance” of any kind, didn’t have a sitdown meal (so no seating arrangement or anything,) no dances, we basically just had a big party and wandered around and mingled the entire time. We did have a guestbook (typewriter which people actually loved, I didn’t think anyone would use it!) but we’ve actually worked it into our rotation for our regular parties and we now have a pretty cool book of fun notes from people, so I wouldn’t call that especially wedding-y.  We didn’t do a cake cutting as we had pies! I think it worked out great and everyone got to hang around and chat and party without staring at us for more then about 5 minutes during our ceremony. Perfecto!

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