Post # 1
So, let me start this board out- my Fiance and I are getting married September 16th of this year. For our honeymoon, we originally planned on taking a week to travel around northern Michigan, stay at Mackinaw Island, ect. The problem is, however, we wanted to take our “big” Honeymoon to Disney in September of 2018 (we just went last year plus we will need to save up more money following the wedding).
Now, because of this, my Fiance is saying he only wants to take a short, Sunday-Wednesday honeymoon this year, since our “real” honeymoon is next year. I get 17 days a year off, so I am in no trouble. Personally, I would like to take the entire week off this year for our “honeymoon”, and another week next year for the “Disney Honeymoon”. However, he gets 7 days off- he wants to take opening day of hunting season off (one of his passions), and take some time around Christmas off, etc.
Part of me feels like I should compromise because a) We are going to Disney in 2018, b) I get 10 days more PTO off than him, c) We already do live together and it does feel like we are already married, d) he has to use his PTO days very wisely. But the other part thinks, “This is our ACTUAL honeymoon, right after our wedding. Why is he putting hunting and holiday time off above the honeymoon?” I’ve tried talking to him about it, but he just doesn’t see it my way. He thinks since we are going to Disney the following year, that is enough.
Ideas of how we can compromise? Am I in the wrong? Is he? I want to bring a compromise to him, but I’m not sure what half-way is? It wouldn’t make sense to go Sunday-Thursday, and go back to work for Friday.
Post # 2
You don’t have to go back to work even if he does. You could take Friday off to settle in to married life.
Post # 3
Idk bee, I don’t really see how what he is asking is out of line. Its not like he is saying he won’t go at all, you still get four days and then a whole nother honeymoon later on.
How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot?
Post # 4
That absolutely true. I don’t mind going back to work—hah! How many people say that? I really like my job, so I’d have no problem going back to work Thursday or Friday.
See, we already live together. And we’ve had our own house for two years, lived together for a little over four, and we have a dog. Like, we already have that stereotypical view of a “married life”. And, I think that’s where he is coming from.
Post # 5
We’re doing this. 4 days (we’ll go Wed-Sun the week after the wedding). and then we’re planning on a taking a week in Jan 2018 to go somewhere.
I get way more time than my Fiance so I’ll just take that entire week off.
It’s really not that big of a deal. Use the time to sleep. 🙂
Post # 6
Thanks for the input! 🙂 I have this really bad problem of overthinking everything, so I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t over-thinking (well…this entire board, which I probably am LOL!)
You just see all of these boards, “Oh, we went to Paris” or “We went to Italy for two weeks” or all of these fancy ones, and we are literally driving four hours north. LOL
Post # 7
I don’t think it’s really fair to ask him to use up all his days for one honeymoon when you are getting two trips – he should be left a couple days to use for other things.
Post # 8
You are wonderful 🙂 This makes me feel better- I don’t know! This whole forum is all people going to Paris, and Italy, and Rome, or the Bahamas, or….like all over right after their wedding! 🙂 It’s good to know someone is doing something similar to me!
Post # 9
Thanks for the input! 🙂 I guess you are totally right about that! I guess maybe I was a little hurt that he’d rather hunt than spend more time on our honeymoon, but the more I think about it- that’s what he does, ya know? He hunts and always takes opening day off- it’s his day.
Oh, you guys are all so helpful! 🙂 It’s really making me feel a lot better about this!
(I’m sorry I’m over-thinking this! Thanks for being all so cool!)
Post # 10
Yeah, we need to save up some money for a week somewhere. and FI’s job is busiest in the summer months so his company really frowns upon more than a couple days off at a time.
and our 4 days will be very unfancy. Perhaps Cape Cod or maybe Bermuda if I can find a decent price on something.
Post # 11
We are doing the same! A “Mini-moon”, maybe a 4-5 hour trip south of us to a cute little cabin with a private hottub and sight seeing. But come next January or February when it’s freezing and we want to get away to some place warm we’re going to take our official honeymoon. I have a lot more time off than my Fiance too, so I am actually taking the whole week of the wedding off and the few days after for our mini-moon. We live together and I wanted to still getaway even if it wasn’t for two weeks, just to enjoy being married. I think you will still have a good time even if it’s just for four days!
Post # 12
Date twins – we are also getting married 9/16 this year! I’m in the opposite situation as you guys though, I want the shorter honeymoon because I am already taking a few days off before the wedding. It’s not about time off availability, just figuring out what works best. We still plan to take an annual vacation going forward, but I want the honeymoon to be just relaxing and stress free after all this wedding planning!
Post # 13
Isn’t this what is meant by a First World problem?
Me & hub left for Inner Harbor Baltimore MD on Sunday, and got home Thursday. It was long enough.
Post # 14
I think everyone is different. I can’t stand being on vacation more than 4 days. After 4 days of adventure or relaxation I am ready to return home. The difference between 4-7 days is so minimal. Pick and choose your battles.
Post # 15
😀 I’ve never been to Cape Cod or Bermuda- are they nice?
OH Mini-Moon! 🙂 I’ve never heard that term before, but I really, really like it! Your comment was very re-assuring! I’m definitely over-thinking this, and any time that we do spend together will be great! 🙂 That will be fun with the cabin! Have you ever been to the cabin before? That just sounds so exciting!
Awwww, yes! Date twins! 😀 That makes so much sense- just a relaxing period after all of the craziness!
Definitely a first-world problem 🙂