(Closed) I want alone time with my mother, and my MIL has inserted herself

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 17
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3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Having my mum on the opposite side of the North Atlantic I totally understand your need for some one on one time with your mum. Don’t let anyone get in the way of that!

If I were in your shoes I would tell your Fiance “You know what, you spilled the beans… I love your mum but I need some alone time with mine, you make your mum understand that in a way that doesn’t upset her too much”.

Post # 19
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

what if you kind of schedule a dress shopping day and lunch with your Mother-In-Law BEFORE your mom comes out.  I mean you could probably narrow down some things and that would mean not spending 8 hours dress shopping.  I don’t know if your Mother-In-Law has daughters, she might just want to spend some time with you one on one … to bond.

 

Post # 20
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3112 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@Buttercupmcgee:  She really should understand. A simple, you know what MIL- I really appreciate your help and input, but my mom really needs me right now. We need to spend Saturday together, talking and blah blah blah. I know I will need your help when it comes to (choosing flowers, hair/makeup input) so let’s plan on doing that (soon, date etc).

Post # 22
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3112 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@Buttercupmcgee:  if she’s going to be here for the whole weekend, i think you can make time for one thing- breakfast or something. i wouldn’t let her in on the whole day, but give a little bit.

Post # 23
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Buttercupmcgee:  Ok you are SO lucky they do love each other.  Maybe just invite her for lunch or dinner all together.  I totally get what you’re talking about, living away from my family and so little time, it’s so nice to get that one on one time. 

Post # 24
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Maybe invite her to go dress shopping but not lunch afterwards. Since she will  be traveling a distance to come – have your fiance help and have him suggest she do lunch with just him after dress shopping? he sort of got you into this mess – he should help you get out of it. haha

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