Post # 1
My fiance and I have 3 children together, his 4 year old will be the ring bearer and my 6 and 8 year old will be giving me away but they will also be up there with him. My best friend is the maid and his brother is the bestman but I dont’ want to list my boys as just groomsmen. I thought about honorary groomsmen but it says they aren’t really in the wedding so that won’t apply either. What should I call them to make sure they stand out as much as the rest?
Post # 3
I’m having my son give me away as well. We’re also trying to figure out a way to make him a special part of the ceremony. Once I saw a ceremony where both people had children from prior relationships. They had family vows where they all stood up front and the officiant read their family vows which where things like promising to love and support each other, to be each other’s cheerleaders and teammates, to listen and forgive, and to always be honest and know that families are forever (obviously, I’m paraphrasing but you get the point). They didn’t repeat the vows back but everyone responded with an “I promise.” The couple only had daughters so each daughter got a necklace to wear. Maybe a special coin for boys or a book or something? I’m not really sure. My son is a bit young. He’ll only be 4 at the time of the wedding, but I still want to figure out how to dedicate a part of the ceremony to include him because our wedding isn’t just about us…its about the 3 of us.
If you did something like that, you wouldn’t necessarily have to come up with a term for them since they would be recognized in front of everyone. Instead you could include a blurb in your program that says how your marriage is the blending of your families and how each child is important and brings so much into the relationship.
I’m going to follow this thread since I am still trying to figure out some things as well. Good luck and congratulations!
Post # 4
I think giving you away is a really big honor, so I would list their names and call them bride’s escorts.
If you are having a small wedding, you can just list their names because everyone will probably know them. If it is bigger, or you want to note that they are your kids you could do something like:
Bride’s escorts: Joe and John, sons of the bride
Ring bearer: Jim, son of the groom
Post # 5
I agree that having them noted in the programs would be nice. Everyone there knows they are your sons and you are having them give you away so I am not sure how much more you could have them do short of standing up there next to you during the ceremony.
Post # 6
@Dandelion D: I thought about that too since its a family union rather than just the 2 of us coming together.
I like the other ideas as well and it’s true…something to consider.
Post # 7
I’ve been trying to come up with something good for this as well. My fiance and I both have a son from our previous relationships. I think I want my son (will be 8 at time of wedding) to walk me down the aisle and give me away and his son (will be 10) to walk the grandmas down the aisle as we both only have our mothers left. I definately think both boys should be standing with him for the ceremony. He has raised my son with me since he was 15 months old.
Post # 8
I really like the idea of “bride’s escorts,” and you could list all three that way.
Post # 9
I like bride’s excorts. I want my kid to do more but he is 12 and doesnt want to have any attention called to him.