(Closed) I want my friend at my wedding but not his wife

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m afraid there’s no way to do that without looking bad. If you invited him only, it would probably cause a fight between the two of them and chances are he wouldn’t come anyway to keep the peace at home. You either don’t invite them at all (and he’ll probably understand why) or invite them both (and hope that she has the same feelings toward you and doesn’t show up).

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Does she know you dont like her? We are inviting a husband and not his wife because his wife has lost her marbles and i want nothing to do with her!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You really have to invite both or neither.  No options here….

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If you invite him and not her that makes you look like the b*tch, unfortunately.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Etiquette says that you have to invite her, unfortunatelty.  One of our groomsmen is married to a girl who I only heard really bad things about from all of FI’s friends.  Fiance really doesn’t care for her either.  But we are going to invite both of them.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I agree… no way around it. You can’t really even get around it if the couple is in a serious relationship, so married? No dice. I don’t really get along with my step-mother, and I had to choke back a little bile to address that invitation, but I had to. Of course, the feeling is mutual, so word on the street is that she isn’t going to attend. Problem solved as far as I’m concerned. Be gracious, invite them both and maybe you’ll get lucky. As a bride, it’s never a bad option to put your most welcoming foot forward. Good luck!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

No, think about this way if your Fiance got an invite and you weren’t on it wouldn’t you be pissed?  Just invite them and accept that she’ll be there or hope that she doesn’t like you either and he comes alone.  Good luck!!!!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I don’t think there is any nice way to do that. Mr. Fantasics family has a business which we both work at. We have to invite EVERY one that works there even though there is a girl who when I started working there treated me like crap (out of jealousy bc I have Mr. Fantastic and she has had a crush since childhood). This girl tried to get me fired by teaching me her dept THE WRONG WAY!!! My plan is to pray she doesn’t come even though her mom will be there, and if she does to seat her way in the back.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Both or neither.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Yeah, married couples have to be invited together or not at all.  No exceptions.  I would decline an invitation that did not include my husband, and vice versa.  Since you and this woman don’t get along it’s very possible that she’ll decide on her own to skip it, anyway.

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