(Closed) I want my MOH to stand out, would it be weird if she wore a different dress?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Are they wearing sashes or anything?  Hers could be a different color.  But why do you want her to stand out?  She’ll be right next to you, holding your bouquet, so it will be obvious who she is.

Post # 4
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Not at all!  You could have her in the same dress as everyone else but add a sash so she stands out.  You could put her in a different dress or the same dress in a different color.  Her bouquet could be slightly larger than the bridesmaids.  There are tons of ways to make your Maid/Matron of Honor stand out and nothing is wrong with it.  🙂

Post # 5
1360 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think it’s weird, and I totally understand. Hers could be a different color, or maybe a slight change in style.

Post # 6
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsMyrdek:  My Maid/Matron of Honor is wearing a different dress in the same color. 

Post # 7
1152 posts
Bumble bee

I’ve seen pictures of the Maid/Matron of Honor wearing the same dress as the BMs, but in the accent color. In their case, the BMs wore gray and the Maid/Matron of Honor wore yellow. I really liked the look of it. I can probably find the picture for you on pinterest if you want. 🙂

Post # 8
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

my Maid/Matron of Honor is wearing a sash made from the extra fabric of my dress ( my dress is champagne).  I think a nice sash of some sort would be lovely.

Post # 9
1136 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

i am having my moh in a completely different dress to my bm, for a few reasons, i do not want her to apear to be a bm, my bm are a lot younger 10 – 20 yrs so i don’t think it’s fair for her to match them she will be 30. plus my moh’s body shape is so different from my bridesmaid i would never ask her to wear the same dress. but i think if i set age and body shape aside i would still want her to stand out. 

Post # 10
9948 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

This used to be the norm, MOH’s wearing something slightly different… usually the same dress, just a different colour.  When I got married the first time (circa 1980) my colours were in the purple family.  BM’s wore grape, Maid/Matron of Honor wore the same dress just in a darker plum… she looked great… and so did the photos.

Not sure what era the following photo is from (Back in the 1980s long dresses were the norm)… and this pic isn’t pouffy enough to be from the 1890s.  But this pic, that I found using GOOGLE does give an idea of what was the norm.  BUT at the same time the length of these dresses means that something like this would be a far more updated / modern / current look

In recent years “the fashion” has been the Bridal Party in either all the same dresses (no real Maid/Matron of Honor distinction), or all different dresses but the same colour (or slightly different hues of one colour). 

If you want you Maid/Matron of Honor to stand apart you could certainly do a different colour as I did way back when… or bling out her look with someother distinctive item… different sash, headpiece, shoes or floral bouquet (the last one is the least expensive option… as bouquets can all be the same price for each girl, just that her’s is a different colour / colour assortment / flowers etc)

Hope this helps,


Post # 11
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

No, I don’t think so.  Same colour/ different style or completely new (coordinating) colour. sucah as if the bridesmaid are in red with gold sashes, she could be in gold.

For my sister’s wedding we all had burgundy dresses all the other bridesmaids had short sleeves and mine was long with a slightly different neckline. Maybe get them to try on a different range in front of you to get a better idea of the direction you want to go in.

Good luck!

Post # 13
5062 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Same colour differnt style would be nice.

Post # 14
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsMyrdek:  I’m going with same color, different dress style. My Maid/Matron of Honor really wants to stand out and I don’t mind if she does but I still want a uniform look.

Post # 15
32 posts
  • Wedding: February 2013

Originally all of my girls were to pick a different dress, and they would all be the same colour and fabric. My maid of honour chose hers (AA #7138), and then the other girls ended up all liking a different dress (AA #7063). So, just my maid of honour is wearing a different dress.


Post # 16
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020 - establishment theatre

my girls are all wearing the same dresses but my MOH’s are wearing a different color( I have a matron of honor and a maid of honor…)

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