- 11 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Backstory: In college, I had my core group of girlfriends – there were five of us. I am especially close with two of the girls. Unfortunately, a rift between those two girls happened about three years ago and kind of broke the whole group apart in the sense that the other two girls took sides.
Basically what happened is that my friend R was dating this guy for a year or two. He was a complete jerk, but she loved him. He treated her like dirt. They were off and on a lot. When R graduated, she moved away but would come back to visit frequently. Anywa, at some point, when R was away, and I think they may have been off, two of our mutual friends, P and B (who happen to be sisters…weird I know), slept with this guy. Not simultaneously…but I think within a couple months span of time.
Needless to say, when R found out, which she did through Facebook instead of being told to her face, she was CRUSHED. She said horrible things about P and B to everyone. The worst part is, she didn’t even seem to blame the guy in the situation, and even got back together with him for awhile. P and B admitted they were completely wrong, that even if R was off with this guy at the time it was wrong to touch someone she was still really into, and apologized, but they were completely offended by the remarks that R was making all over Facebook and to all our other friends.
That’s the problem. It was hard for me because both R and B were very close to me. I tried to remain neutral. Since then, we all moved to different places, so it hasn’t been an issue. R lives closest to me and I see her the most frequently, so when it comes to my wedding, I would like to have her as my Maid/Matron of Honor. IDEALLY, I would have liked to keep it to family, but I don’t have any sisters and only one 15 year old female cousin. My Fiance doesn’t have any sisters either! So, I kind of have to go with friends……….I really want B to be another bridesmaid. At one point last year, R even tried to make up with B, telling her she forgave her, etc, but apparently she did it in a way that was kind of like “I still think you’re a slut, but I forgive you” and B had no desire to resume the friendship.
B is a bit more mature than R, and I think she would be fine being a bridesmaid, but I could see R throwing a tantrum about it (i.e. “how could you ask her after what she did to me”). I don’t know what to do. Adding the other two girls into the mix would only cause more catfights. I just don’t know what to do 🙁 I want to have my best friends in my bridal party, but I don’t want any drama!