(Closed) I want stackable wedding bands. FI doesn't get it! Help!

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll:
    Plain Band and eternity band together! : (9 votes)
    45 %
    Just the plain band : (11 votes)
    55 %
  • Post # 3
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    2565 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    What if you brought up the idea of the eternity band as an anniversary gift or mother’s gift (if you have children)?

    Post # 4
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    2743 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

    Why not do the eternity band as an aniversary gift?

    Post # 5
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    692 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @pixiecat:  I agree.  Ask if he’d consider adding to the “stack” for anniversaries, milestones, etc.

    Post # 7
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    3755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I have a similar ering and I want an eternity band or something like it as well! I don’t know how to convince your Fiance though, mine doesn’t care what I get lol.

    Post # 9
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    1030 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think waiting is your best bet. As much as you may not want to, think about how much better he’d feel if he gave it to you as a gift, AND you’d still get the ring you wanted.

    Two win’s are better than a ‘one win right now’, I’d say!

    Post # 10
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    2565 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @dancingfox:  Ok how about this, I have heard people explain having three rings as symbolizing your past (e-ring), present (wedding band), and future (eternity band) together.  Do you think he might like that idea?

    Post # 11
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    261 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Is there any event that is sooner, if you do not want to wait a year? It could be a birthday, of a “first married christmas” present (which is only a few months)

    Post # 12
    Member
    295 posts
    Helper bee

    The solitaire and plain band look fine to me. I would ask for an extra diamond band for my 5th anniversary

    Post # 14
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    1176 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @dancingfox:  Yes, sorry, I’m with the Bees who suggest waiting at least a year for an annivery ring. Your Fiance is right, you already have a beautiful blingy engagement ring, and an extra band is a frivolous purchase. If he’s objecting to spending money this way, I think you need to respect his opinion. Besides, the ring will have so much more meaning if you wait for an anniversary.

    You might bully him into buying the eternity ring now, but there are no magic words to actually change the situation.

    Now, if you want to get an eternity wedding band instead of the plain band, that’s different. But if you just want extra bling, and he objects, you’re being a greedy gobbler. (; It happens to the best of us, lol.

    Post # 15
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    6355 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I don’t get stackable wedding bands either.

    How about stacking on your right hand and keeping the wedding finger to two rings, as is tradition?

    Post # 16
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Maybe seeing things from his (possible) perspective will help you. Either to decide to wait, or to at least be less frustrated with him in your discussions about this. 

    You have a gorgeous e-ring that symbolizes his commitment to you and asking you to be his wife. You are in agreement about getting a plain wedding band to symbolize your wedding. You want a third ring. Not for any symbolism, just because you think it is pretty. You want an expensive diamond ring. Just cause it’s pretty. At a time when you’re spending a ton of other money on lots of other things. And right after buying two other expensive (and pretty) rings. You can kind of see his point, can’t you? If your fiance is anything like me, the best strategy is admitting it is unnecessary and frivolous, and saying you just want it anyways. Don’t try to justify it, because he’ll see right through that. If I were him the best way to make me feel okay about it would be saying “Yea I know it is totally unnecessary and expensive but I’m just really in love with the look and since we can afford it I’d love if you could be okay with me buying it.” Trying to justify it as somehow necessary is likely to make him feel like what you’re already getting is (in your eyes) inadequate and/or like you have different ideas about what is necessary and what isn’t. 

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