Post # 1
NOT on me!!!!!! Am I the only bride who feels this way????
I am sick and tired of going to weddings where it’s all about the bride or groom and not about what Christ has done for them or how marriage is a beautiful representation of God and the church.
Our wedding is end of December so I do think foot-washing would be out of the question lol. I also don’t want to change our entire reception into a worship service.
What are some ways I can keep the focus of the day on God and marriage… and not on me specifically???
I’m excited to hear responses!
Post # 3
Well it’s not about just you. It’s about the two of you getting married.
I’m pretty sure that most pastor’s will have a lot in there talking about God. Throw a communion in there if you want. That is becoming a trend.
Post # 4
I have been to several weddings this year where the bride and grom shared communion. It was really beautiful!
Post # 5
But, in all honesty, that is what the marriage is about. The couple. It was important more me to have the presence there and certain things mentioned but at the end of the day the wedding isn’t about Christ. It is about two people joining their lives together. I do think the footwashing would be an awesome thing to have. If I could hae, I would have done it!
Post # 6
@SimplyChic11: We wanted to do a foot washing too but it was just not fesible. I think this is so important too. We are doing several bible verse reading and our vows are very Christ-centric.
“Do you FI/Me take Me/FI to be your wife/husband? Do you promise to love, honor, and cherish her/him, forsaking all others and holding only to her/him forevermore? Will you promise to provide for her/him, protect and defend her/him as God shall make you able? With the love God has so freely given to you, will you give likewise this same affection to her/him? As you are blessed of God with children will you strive to bring them up in the love of God, instructing them in His way? As Jesus Christ is the most important person in your life, will you seek to help Me/FI attain the stature and fullness of Christ as you serve Him together? From this day forward, do you vow to love her/him in sickness and in health, in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, and to live in accordance with God’s holy will, all the days of your life?”
Post # 7
Footwashing – bad idea. The last thing you need is a wet petticoat. Your guests also may not wish to see it. I always get grossed out when people do footwashing.
Post # 8
That’s just where I feel uncomfortable. It’s not about just us. If it was, we’d have never found each other. Never been healed and given second chances at a loving life with someone else. Without Christ in our marriage from the very start, I don’t think we would have ever met. This is pretty central to us and I feel I cannot leave this out.
Post # 9
Have more religious readings and hymns. I love the reading about how a cord of three strands (Ecclesiastes). I thinks it’s beautiful about how the couple and Christ make a strong rope. That could lead your priest/pastor into a homily about how Christ is entering your marriage.
Honestly I believe when it’s in a church, it’s about the couple and God. I would love to see a communion.
Also, you can have a more religious blessing before dinner too.
Post # 10
We do footwashing at our church but not during weddings because it doesnt fit in well with weddings especially since not everyone attending the wedding wants to participate in that. If you have a church wedding with a priest and bible readings then God is already the focus.
Post # 11
You can mention how grateful you are to God/Jesus/whoever in your vows.
Post # 12
This was how ours was… Darling Husband and I know that entire life isn’t about us but about Christ and we wanted to start our marriage with the same submission to Jesus.
After the vows we had worship.. and then Darling Husband and I took communion together as our first act as husband and wife. (no we aren’t Catholic)
I couldn’t tell you if anyone joined us BUT I can say that as Darling Husband and I stood there hand it hand it was so awesome to get into God’s presence and be totally submitted to him right then!
We chose a song that we felt put our marriage at the feet of Christ and knew that our heart was to have his heart at the center.
Love like Fire by Hillsong
And then you can see some of the pics from our ceremony here in my recaps…. my absolute favorites were the ones of worship.
Post # 13
Here is what I am doing to incorporate God into my wedding ceremony-
I am having my mother read a bible passage.
My Fiance & my pastor is doing the service and he will certainly give a sermon type of message.
All my ceremony music is biblically based- some songs are based on the doxology. The composer is David Maslanka, he is really awesome. I might throw in some instrumental hymns too.
It will be a ceremony honoring God- but it will be about me and my Fiance because that’s the purpose of getting married.
Post # 14
@rubyred605: I don’t think Communion is a trend lol. It’s a tradition. We will be having it at our ceremony, just as our parents, our grandparents, our great greats and so on have done before us.
@SimplyChic11: A marriage IS about the union of two people before God. It’s a covenant. Perhaps you can ask your pastor to say a brief word on marriage as it relates to God. I will also say that in our ceremony, we will be singing three traditional hymns. Not too many, but enough that the congregation gets into the swing of it before the end. And it’s not just for us as Non-Denominational Christians. My grandfather (Catholic) had us sing a hymn and recite the Lord’s prayer at his wedding. (He was remarried after the death of his first wife). I have also been to a Methodist and Baptist wedding where there were hymns and a short message. (The message was maybe 10 min long)
Post # 15
Marriage is a picture of Christ and the church. It is a sacred mystery. In fact, the sacredness of Christ’s church is linked to the sacredness of marriage. Christ is the heavenly Bridegroom and the church is His bride (Revelation 21:9). Marriage illustrates this union. The husband is called to be Christlike in his love for his wife because this protects the sacredness of the divine object lesson. The Christian husband therefore displays what he thinks of Christ by the way he treats his wife. And marriage itself is a sacred institution because of what it illustrates.
I, __Luis___, take you, _Jessie_____, to be my wedded wife. With deepest joy I receive you into my life that together we may be one. As is Christ to His body, the church, so I will be to you a loving and faithful husband. Always will I perform my headship over you even as Christ does over me, knowing that His Lordship is one of the holiest desires for my life. I promise you my deepest love, my fullest devotion, my tenderest care. I promise I will live first unto God rather than others or even you. I promise that I will lead our lives into a life of faith and hope in Christ Jesus. Ever honoring God’s guidance by His spirit through the Word, And so throughout life, no matter what may lie ahead of us, I pledge to you my life as a loving and faithful husband.
I , _Jessie____, take you, __Luis____, to be my wedded husband. With deepest joy I come into my new life with you. As you have pledged to me your life and love, so I too happily give you my life, and in confidence submit myself to your headship as to the Lord. As is the church in her relationship to Christ, so I will be to you. _Luis____, I will live first unto our God and then unto you, loving you, obeying you, caring for you and ever seeking to please you. God has prepared me for you and so I will ever strengthen, help, comfort, and encourage you. Therefore, throughout life, no matter what may be ahead of us, I pledge to you my life as an obedient and faithful wife.