(Closed) I want the kids to have my last name…

posted 8 years ago in Names
Post # 17
1774 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Whatever you and your husband decide.  I went the 4 name route, no hyphen- MyFirst MyMiddle MyMaiden HisLast. I use MyFirst MyMaiden at work, and MyFirst MyMaiden HisLast otherwise.  He wants their last name to be HisLast, which I am ok with, but I want them to have MyMaiden as either a middle name or a second middle name.  We are still deciding on that, but I bet our kids will have two middle names.

Post # 18
6354 posts
Bee Keeper

Seems entirely reasonable to me. 🙂

I know this isn’t your situation, but personally I can’t understand why so few husbands take their wives’ last names. It’s like this whole idea is bizarre for some reason, like “oh, now that’s just too far, don’t be silly now”… because a last name is somehow an inherently masculine thing?! Equality, where are you? Helloooo?

Post # 19
6354 posts
Bee Keeper

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@MissHobbit:  Yay for your friends who took her last name as their family name, that’s awesome! Sadly much more common is that she keeps hers and he his, her for career reasons and him just for…. machismo reasons? 🙁

Note: I’m not saying any particular instance of each spouse keeping their own last name is an inherently sad situation, it’s totally not, I’m saying the general societal aversion to taking the woman’s last name as the family name…the idea of “anything but that…” …that gets under my skin. Taking the woman’s last name shouldn’t be this big, revolutionary “thing” some people make it seem like.

Post # 20
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

It’s a traditional filipino thing for the kids names to have their mothers maiden name as their middle name 🙂 my middle name’s my mom’s last name (i’m chinese though but i was born and raised in the philippines.) I plan on doing the same

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