(Closed) I want to be engaged SO badly.

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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365 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Wedgewood Tower Club

It sounds to me like you’re more interested in the ring and the planning than the actual marriage, which takes considerable work and sacrifice.

I just finished waiting last week, and now realize how ridiculous all of my obsessing over an engagement was. If it’s meant to be, it’ll come.

Post # 18
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8547 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

MsBeer:  I clearly meant LIFE  – stupid fingers. lol

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Woah….slow down! you’re only 20! a year ago you were a teenager! What is the rush to get married? I swear some girls only want a sparkly diamond on their finger and all the attention that comes with being engaged. Because of that they rush and pressure their bfs so much to be engaged. 

Are you even financially stable or at least have a good career? Marriage isnt all rainbows and butterflies and finances is a very important aspect. You need to be good with youself and where you are in life before thinking of starting a life (forever hopefully) with someone else. Think wisely OP. 

Post # 20
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891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

OP is young and has herself all excited. She won’t listen to any constructive advice here. All she can do is wait, and learn from her own experiences.

Post # 21
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3307 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

To take your mind off it, I suggest using your mind for something else. Like school.

Post # 22
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446 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

TheSpecial:  I’m glad you asked.  I had seen it elsewhere and was like “what is that, ‘Other Husband?'”  Haha.

OP: I think PP’s have said it all.  I can understand – waiting can be difficult sometimes.  But just focus on the relationship you have now.

Post # 23
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3844 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

doberman: This. OP, being a full time law student while working full time was a great distraction for me (at 22-25, 4-6 years into our relationship). Slow your roll. Fiance and I started dating at 18 too and we’re getting married at 27. It’ll happen when it happens.

Post # 24
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Newbee

I feel like you don’t really know the person you will be until you are a bit older. Change might occur where you and your SO are not clicking anymore. 

 

Focus on building a great friendship, school, career and just finding out what you would want your life to look like by the time you are 30.

 

I understand how serious marriage is and my SO does too and we still don’t feel ready for that type of responsibility after 5.5 years together.

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