Post # 1
my bf and i have been dating for two years and he shows no sign of wanting to marry or move in together..
now ive been saving money to buy my own diamond ring .. kind of a gift from me to me for my 30th bday coming in the next couple of months.
problem is the ring i really like is a simple solitaire diamond ring of about 1carat .. now i know theres no rule as to who can buy a ring but is it going to be weird if one day the bf decides to proposes and a) i end up with 2 very similar ring – one in each hand and/or b) his ring is going to be smaller than the one i bought myself.
Im not buying a ring because i am desperate or anything but i am doing it because i have always wanted a ring and i dont believe in solely waiting for a man to give it to you cause then what if it never happens..
anyone has 2 diamond rings? 1 engagement and 1 they bought themselves prior to the engagement ??
Post # 2
Go ahead and buy yourself a diamond. Wear it with joy. I had lots of rings before I got engaged. Several were diamonds that I had bought just because I liked the design. When the time comes to get engaged surely you can have an input into the kind of ring you would like if you want it to differ from something you already own?
I think after two years maybe it is time to have a conversation with your BF to see if your current relationship goals are similar. It is always nice to know if you are both on the same page….
Post # 3
My personal opinion is that you should never wait for a relationship to progress to do what you want in your life- buy jewelry, homes, take trips, get good dinnerware and lingerie, so I’d say go for it with the ring. Just wear it on any other finger but that certain one!
Post # 5
Yes definatley buy yourself a diamond ring. Get it in whichever design/carat size you like. You need to ask your bf about his intentions towards the future too
Post # 6
Buy it and enjoy it but be prepared to answer questions. If that won’t upset you or bother you.
Post # 8
Buy it! A friend of mine bought a RB solitaire diamond ring for herself and wore it on her middle finger. I think it’s totally cool! if you can afford one and you love rings. A diamond ring doesn’t always have to be an engagement ring!!
Post # 9
You do you..buy that rock! and if you need help shopping ask the Bee’s… it’s like having an entire community of personal shoppers to help you 🙂
Post # 10
Thank you everyone !!! I ammm going to get it 🙂
Post # 11
Here, here! So very true. The Bees are extremely helpful, fantastic people.
You can be very proud of your new ring once you get it, because it will be a goal you set that is now realized.
Post # 12
Good! I am so happy for you! Ofc you should get it! I’d love to get myself one too! 🙂 Please post pictures!!!
Post # 13
Buy it! Buy it!
There are so many other styles your bf could buy you as an engagement ring, and this way, you get the solitaire you want and he doesn’t feel pressured to get something he can’t really afford.
I wore my mum’s three stone engagement ring for 4 years, before my husband proposed with a solitaire. I just can’t see an issue. I’d wear it in your right hand if you want to avoid people asking if you’ve got engaged.
Post # 14
The one thing i would note is it might confuse people. I bought a cheap $30 ring from Amazon that I wore on my right hand when i was single. It had some pave diamonds, but no larger ones.
My fiance when he met me thought I was engaged because of it. He actually asked me a few weeks into knowing me since i had not mentioned a fiance and I had to explain that it was a fashion ring. Ha!
If you want it, go for it, but be prepared to explain it!
Post # 15
- Wedding: South Lodge. 2nd of Dec 2017
I hope you did it bee, I brought myself a 2carat dia after my parents died, my only advice is if he buys one smaller, people will always assume the bigger is your engagement ring. But hey who knows what will happen in the future, enjoy the now xxx