(Closed) I want to buy a diamond ring for myself but…

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
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tuvanny :  I think it is weird to buy a solitaire engagement-like ring for everyday wear, especially noting your possible annoyance with your boyfriend not contemplating marriage.  If you are hoping that will eventually just turn into an engagement ring because your boyfriend will feel relieved of the pressure of having to buy you one, I’m not sure that’s going to work out for you.  This is very expensive, and you should expect most people to assume you are engaged even if you wear it on your right hand because in some cultures the right hand signifies engagement. 

If none of the above applies to you, then don’t worry about it.  Enjoy the purchase and I hope it turns out well.  It’s liberating to invest in yourself. 

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
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tuvanny :  Yay for you! Can we see a pic of the one you’re looking at? You know how we all love staring at beautiful rings! 

I wear a solitaire on my right hand middle finger AND I have a rose gold band stacked with it just cause I like how it looks. If worn on my left ring finger it would definitely look like a wedding set, but oh well! I love it and I’m pretty sure that’s what matters, lol. You do you, lady!

Here’s mine: 

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mrsbear2be :  It’s so good to see you back on the boards! You’ve been missed dear! Hope all is fantastic with you 😘

Post # 19
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bridetobe2018 :  Just curious, what culture(s) are you familiar with where the engagement ring is worn on the right hand? Also, does it need to be on the ring finger to be thought of as an engagement ring?  No snark here, promise; I just like to learn more about other cultures outside my own! 😊

Post # 20
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CinqueTerre :  The ones I am aware of are all European countries.  Could be more.  And yes it would be on the ring finger.  If OP were to wear something like the ring posted above on her middle finger, that is lovely.  It is low set, and I would not think of that as an engagement ring! 

Also.. snark is totally fine.  Everyone eventually gets blasted on this site.  I have been moody the past two weeks and would absolutely not call someone out for firing at me if they felt like it. πŸ‘

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper

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curiouscat2017 :  This happened to me too with a fake ring from a fast fashion retailer. πŸ™‚

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper

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CinqueTerre :  Many Scandinavian countries do wear it on the right hand. πŸ™‚

Post # 23
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Helper bee
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Dear lord you sound like me haha… I bought myself a diamond ring 2 years before FH proposed… the rings don’t match but I love them both πŸ™‚ I also bought messed a diamond necklace (because I’m my favorite person) 

Post # 24
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Busy bee

Buy the ring but show us pics!!! I love seeing all rings πŸ˜‰

Post # 25
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Newbee

tuvanny :  When I was 21 I won $5k to spend at a local jeweller (I know right?  It was a good feeling – used up all my competition-winning luck and have won nothing since :P).  I chose a pair of diamond studs and a three-stone diamond ring in white gold to wear on my right middle finger.  My mum told me not to do it, that it was an engagement ring and would make any future engagement ring feel less special.  I ignored her and don’t regret it!

Now that I am engaged (he proposed with a “placeholder” because he knew I’d always wanted to design my own), my ring is getting made in rose gold so will look completely different.  This might be the situation you end up in – with a different stone / cut / metal / setting etc. or choosing your own anyway.

 

tl;dr – Go for it!  Get your ring, girl!

Post # 26
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bridetobe2018 :  hahaha, you’re too funny! I try very hard to not be snarky as I am a hostess for the site and that would not reflect well, lol. (If ever I feel it coming on, I just don’t post!) Interesting to know about the right hand ring finger–I’ll have to do some research on how other cultures roll and the reasoning behind it–I always love to learn more. : )

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sweatergal007 :  Very cool! Do you know if they do the wedding and engagement ring on the same finger or if they wear them separately? (Or maybe only wear one?) 

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PrincessShelly :  I’m so super curious-which is which?  : )  Both are beautiful btw!

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee

I thought about it when I graduated, but when I was browsing jewelry stores the salesmen seemed too excited. Like they encouraged me too much and it turned me off. My advice is to research prices online, maybe even order online.

Post # 28
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Helper bee
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CinqueTerre :  thanks πŸ™‚ lol the solitaire is my engagement ring and the halo is my princess ring ❀️

Post # 30
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Worker bee

Go for it! But do discuss your relationship with your boyfriend, to make sure you have the same goals for the future. 🌼 

 

Many cultures have or have had the tradition to wear your engagement and wedding rings on your right hand or one on each. Several Eastern European countries like Latvia, Russia and Poland as well as Germany, Greece, the Netherlands, Austria, Jordan and Norway just to name a few. Most orthodox christians wear their ring on their right hand (Russian, Greek…) to my knowledge. However like with most things there is an influence from the US and the UK mostly through TV and media and today many younger people wear their rings on their left hand instead even were they otherwise have these traditions. My German friend said in her region Catholics wear the rings on the left hand and Protestants on their right but that might be a very local tradition. I have been told that it comes from the Bible talking about the right hand being the right hand for a wedding ring, that the right hand is the hand of power/truth/knowledge and so on and that wearing it on your left hand comes from this old idea that a vein went from the heart directly to your left ring finger and it was therefor suitable for a wedding ring, a ring of love coming from the heart. 

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