I want to buy a diamond ring for myself but…

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
236 posts
Helper bee

I’m a big believer in a person doing what feels right for them. That said though, I will mention something…there was a young girl where I work who came in one day with an engagement ring and everyone thought she was engaged. She was seeing a guy, but the ring was not from him, and she eventually was pretty embarrassed because 1) the guy reacted as though she was sending him a message and rushing him, not to mention his annoyance with the insinuation that he was going to marry her which put him on the spot where people were assuming something he didn’t want assumed (and were commenting to him); and 2) because she had to buy it instead of him. He soon broke up with her. Word got around. So Just be sure before you buy it and how he will react, because he may not be too happy about looking like he proposed when he didn’t. 

I’m not saying to live your life for other people or to care what they think, because you need to live for you. However if it is an engagement-looking ring, then it will indirectly involve him since you are seen with him, and there may be consequences…so just take this as some food for thought. 

Honestly a diamond band on the right hand would be more appropriate IMO. My friend wore a beautiful diamond band on her right middle finger before she got married, no one questioned it, it looked gorgeous on her, and all was well with the world. 😉

Post # 32
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 1997

Why not diamond earrings or a pendant instead?

Post # 33
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: Waterbury,CT

I bought myself this solitaire and wrap 20 years ago.When my FH proposed last year, I told him that I had a ring we could use as my e-ring.We discussed it,and decided to use it, because I couldn’t see him spending money he doesn’t have just to buy me a ring.It’s a half carat, and it sparkles like crazy.I also bought myself a channel set quarter carat diamond band too-I’m not sure if we’re going to use that or my mom’s wedding ring yet.We’re still discussing it-depends on if my mom’s ring can be sized up at all.Her ring is engraved all around it,but I can’t see why it wouldn’t be able to be sized up anyway.We do have to have my two rings sized up a little-they’re a little snug.I also would like to have my solitaire remounted eventually.

Post # 35
30 posts
  • Wedding: October 2017

 Buy the ring! Although, when it comes to an e-ring I would go for something else later down the road  just because you can. You could even go for something that makes a statement (like marquise cut or a larger coloured stone) but only wear it on special occasions.

Post # 36
40 posts

There are many stores that have an upgrade policy where you only have trade it in for a diamond that is at least 10% higher in price….why don’t your buy yours from one now and let bf upgrade it when he is ready to propose :). That way you have a brand new ring instead of two!

Post # 37
1065 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: South Lodge. 2nd of Dec 2017

CinqueTerre :  hey there, kind of you to remember me, it’s been a whirlwind 9 moths I’ve had three major surgries, all healed now, although still in recovery.  Wedding plans are in full swing sorting out sweets for the sweet trolley today, have another fitting for my dress and jacket on Tuesday, looking forward to that !! how’s you ?? 

Post # 38
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

tuvanny :  Girl you buy yourself a ring! Who cares if you have two similar rings, you do you and rock your 30th birthday gift to yourself!

Post # 39
1353 posts
Bumble bee

If there is a ring you love and you can afford it, get it. Spoil yourself if you’re able to.  I did last week when I went to an estate auction and dropped money on a beautiful princess cut diamond solitaire ring!  It was a total splurge and I didn’t need it, but you know what? You only live once!  I look at it as an investment piece – I can always sell it someday or pass it on to my little girl if I want to.  🙂

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