(Closed) I Want to call off my wedding

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Eff the wedding…elope!

Lots of people feel this way (actually, there are threads about it frequently). There is nothing wrong with eloping. It can be romantic and fun if it’s the right choice for you.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

I hear you! Wedding planning has been incredibly stressful for me, as everyone has a lot of opinions and I feel like my and my fiance’s voices really get lost in the shuffle. We’re told that this is the best time of our lives and that the wedding is going to be the most perfect day ever, but really, this is just another event in your life. Take a break from planning if you can, and then come back to it. If not, simplify things and delegate tasks wherever you can, and remind yourself that it’s totally ok to feel the way your feeling. In the end, if you end up married, that’s all that matters.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I hated wedding planning you are so not alone!! I thought having a small wedding would keep things as low stress as possible but there are still the same amount of things to plan just on a smaller scale.  If eloping is something that works for you do it!! Looking back I would have been just as happy eloping with him.

 

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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schoening22:  I hated wedding planning. I was stressed and anxious most of the time, in spite of being very VERY excited to be my husband’s wife. I would have happily eloped, so you are definitely not alone!

We did have a wedding because it was very important to my husband, as his family and closest friends are very spread out and this would probably be only/last time they’d all be in the same room together. But if not for that… my dream “wedding” would have involved a trip to the courthouse, followed by a small but lavish dinner for 20 of our our close family members and best friends. Sigh.

Do you have the option of eloping? 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Vegas is sounding SO good to me now too.. infact our Destination Wedding is 2 hours away from there. We thought having a small destination wedding would be less stress.. turns out trying to please everyone is insanely trying. We are paying for our bridal party and our family to fly out to where were getting married, and also houseing and feeding everyone for the three days were there. The guests are each getting enough for 1 flight, and they are responsible for their family and SO if they choose to bring one (they can allocate their funds to a rental car too instead if they want). One of the guests actually sent us a BILL totaling 1700$ for his and his family of 5’s flights and minivan rental car. UHM thats like 20% of our entire budget (incl honeymoon).. The audacity of some people… I guess the 600$ we already offered for him and his wife (300 more than the other guests) wasn’t good enough.. 

Post # 10
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Newbee

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schoening22:  I just started wedding planning and it has been very stressful. You’re not alone!

I’m looking forward to being married to my Fiance but I’m not looking forward to our wedding celebration. I hope things get better for you bee!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Oh my gosh.. this is why I am tempted to elope.  I dread future wedding planning!

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

It’s not appropriate for me to tell you how often I have considered Vegas! Just focus on the positive and keep moving forward.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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schoening22:  Girl I totally get you. I have been engaged since August and I got really excited for the first month and went crazy with magazines, swatches, etc…then reality set in and I completely stopped planning. The only thing I know is that my wedding dress is being made.

We don’t even have a date set because the two original dates we wanted aren’t going to work (first we wanted June, then we wanted September). We are having an international wedding and although all his family lives there, I don’t even know where to begin. I am at a loss for where to start, what to do, etc and everyone keeps asking about the wedding and I just don’t have answers! Top that off with the fact that now we are actually moving abroad this summer so that sets any realistic date back even further. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Wedding planning was the absolute worst.  We had a Destination Wedding.  Two months after we booked our venue, my dad got diagnosed with a very aggressive cancer, and then came the family drama.  I have a very dramatic family.  I kept on asking myself why I decided to have a wedding at all.  DH and I had no financial or emotional support from our families during the wedding planning process.  I have to say my wedding day was great and a day I will treasure for the rest of my life, but never will I ever plan a wedding ever again!  I don’t think what you’re feeling is abnormal.  In fact, I think people that tell you that wedding planning is a happy and exciting time are insane!  I have never had a bride tell me that!  Most of them complain about how stressful it is.  I think wedding planning is really worth it at the end of it all, because it will be the happiest day of your life.  I hope you get to realize it.  Good luck! 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

We opted to get married on a cruise because I did not want the stress or financial hassle. Highly recommend considering the idea. It is not worth your happiness and special day!

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