I want to call off the wedding

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 31
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Pull a How I Met Your Mother and elope before getting “married” with them there lol

Post # 32
1107 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Don’t stress! You guys should make your plans, and then if you want to tell ppl, cool! If not, then task someone with throwing you guys a dinner when you get back home to celebrate. 

We just found out that there’s construction happening next to our ceremony space. So we’re having to move our whole ceremony elsewhere. We get married in 98 days. 

It could always be worse! Lol

Post # 33
165 posts
Blushing bee

cj-court :  aww girl, if I were you I would go with Fiance to Niagara Falls a day before you originally planned and get married in a private ceremony; when his family shows up the day after, have a reception with everyone! Best of luck to you dear! <3

Post # 34
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

1. Emotional blackmail never works – they say they’ll disown you both, but they ultimately won’t.

2. Your fiancé needs to be the one to put his foot down –  not you. They are his parents and this needs to be a conversation he has with them. I can understand where they’re coming from and I’m certain they don’t have malicious intentions – everyone is different. I originally had a HUGE argument with my future Father-In-Law because he felt like they weren’t getting enough invitations, even though they’re inviting significantly more people than my own parents (who are paying) and my fiancé had to cut a lot of his friends to accomodate who his parents wanted to invite. I initially was absolutely furious but I remembered that different people – and different cultures – approach weddings very differently. In their culture, everyone invites everyone to wedding. It’s seen as incredibly rude to not to do so. I simply asked my Fiance to speak to him about how keeping the wedding smaller was important to me, and reminded him of the sacrifices I’ve already made (i.e. getting married in their church instead of mine, etc.) I’m telling this to reassure you that his family may not be doing this to make your lives miserable. They may just really feel this day is a family event and it is important to them. Ultimately of COURSE it is about you. But your Fiance needs to be the one to put his foot down. By saying “it’s going to be okay” he is kinda allowing it to happen. He needs to be firm if this is a private ceremony.

3. Could you get married the day before? Do your own thing, wear what you want, have your special day to yourselves. Perhaps they could come up the next day and you can go out to dinner, you can wear the fancy clothes, take the pictures, etc. 

Post # 36
11803 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

cj-court :  That sounds like a great compromise. Good luck! 

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