- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
I am American and my Fiancee is English and we live in London. We decided to have a “destination wedding” in Tuscany, but what I didn’t put enough thought into was that Tuscany is only a 2 hour cheap and easy flight for his friends and family and a 10 hour very expensive flight for mine. It turns out that every single one of his family and friends that he invited are coming, over 50, whereas my guest list is only 32 people (and I invited like a 100). I have so many family members and close friends in the US that I was counting on coming – they all said they would initially. Now one by one, everyone is dropping out and cancelling. Some of my immediate family for various lame excuses and it really adds up and makes me feel like they just don’t care. Like a few of my close family members aren’t coming b/c of someone’s 8th grade graduation. It makes me so incredibly sad as I have put so much time and effort into planning this wedding, and into planning 4 days of entertainment, premium bar and amazing food and decorations, and my Fiancee has been helpful, but he’s not bothered about the details as much. I wish SO much that I organized it in the US but it’s too late now. We have already spent $50,000 and have committed to paying the rest. I don’t know what to do, but I feel miserable and I cannot even do any wedding stuff now b/c it just makes me sad. Everytime I get another rejection email I just feel sick to my stomach and I don’t even want to think about the wedding anymore. I feel silly now for being so excited and for spending countless hours perfecting the invitations, the flowers, the menus, etc. when my side can’t even make the effort to come.