(Closed) I want to change a vendor and don't know how to tell them!

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
Member
903 posts
Busy bee

Tell her you’ve reconsidered and will have to cancel. That’s it. People cancel all the time.

Post # 4
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1600 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Just tell them you decided to “go in a different direction.” Or you can say you found a close friend or family member to do it, that’s all. 

They may not even ask, though, so just call and tell them politely. 

Post # 5
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986 posts
Busy bee

Like PPs said, just say politely that you’ve decided to go in a different direction. People do cancel all the time, so even though it may not feel so great, this is something your vendor has more than likely dealt with before!

Post # 6
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6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’d do as PP said and tell her a family member has offered to do it for free. That way, she won’t get her feelings hurt.Everyone knows how wedding costs always balloon way more than people expect them to, so I’m sure she will understand if you make it sound like a matter of money on your end.

 

Post # 7
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9145 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

If you don’t know her and there is no way for her to find out you can always tell her you cancelled the wedding and you’re not sure when you will reschedule.  If she asks why, tell her it’s none of her business.  I am not very good at telling people no or letting them down either.

Post # 8
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11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You don’t owe them a reason, just tell them you’re not going to be using them and ask how you will be refunded.  I don’t agree with lying about your plans if they ask though. Just be honest – I don’t get why you would need to make up a lie about it. Like I said, you don’t need to give them a reason, if they ask just say you’ve decided to go with another MUA who is a better fit or that you’re “going in another direction.”  Keep it vague – they won’t press and if they do simply say that it’s not their business and you are not comfortable talking about it. No big deal.

Why do you feel so terrible? This is why they have contracts to protect themselves. Is it a close friend? If not, all they are is a vendor providing a service there’s no reason to feel terrible about it. I’m sure they’ll find another wedding to do that weekend.  

Post # 9
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6207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Just tell her that you’ve decided that you no longer require her services, and would like your deposit back. you don’t need to tell her anything else.

Post # 10
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3093 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsWBS:  We canceled on a vendor who just wasn’t cutting it in our book.  It was very hard.  We jokingly called it a “break-up” between ourselves because it felt that hard to do. 

In hindsight I can’t even remember why it felt bad or what felt so hard.  So the good news is once it’s done it’s pretty easy to move on with life 🙂

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