Post # 1
I thought I had made my mind up. I’ve been dragging my mom and my sister/MOH to all the bridal shops around town. Last week when I re-tried a dress on that I hadn’t made my mind about, they both begged me to “just pick this one already”, I just said “okay, i’ll take it.” They were so relieved and happy that I made my choice. I actually started to really like the dress and feel relieved I could stop my search. My mom made me put a small deposit on it. But now, I’m feeling dress regret. The dress is nice but it feels a bit cheap and I don’t feel like it’s the one. I feel so worried that I made the wrong choice. I only put $100 down on the dress, but I think I am not going to go back to that bridal shop.
Pictures of the dress I picked last week here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-think-i-found-my-dress-17
Now I found two new dresses that I really like online and I think I want to go find them and try them on. Am I being ridiculous? The dress I’m considering is Lazaro 3108 and More Lee 2914. Should I change my mind or feel regret forever… ??
Post # 3
Your dress is beautiful. I really think once the dress is on you, in the right size, you will be much happier.
If you are worried the train is too long, it can be shortened.
Post # 4
Changing your mind or regreting forever are def. not your only two options!
You went back and tried it on again and that says a lot towards your attraction to that dress. There are bajilions of dresses in the world and it’s easy to get distracted by others and question what youve got. But if you tried on that dress again, I can 90% guarentee you that you’ll like it all over again.
I think it’s gorgeous, by the way!
Post # 5
If you don’t feel like it’s “the one”, then it’s not. Keep looking. Don’t let anyone pressure you into buying something.
Post # 6
What happens if you don’t pay the balance? I would think if it’s already been ordered that might be an issue? Sorry I’m not sure but I wouldn’t want to end up in small claims court or something!
Post # 7
It seems you felt pressured to just pick on so your family could get on with their lives. Maybe that pressured you into a gown that you weren’t 100% sold on. I do think it’s a beautiful gown though and with alterations will be stunning. Does not look cheap at all!
If you do look elsewhere, you can most definitely go ALONE and not let people pressure you. I went alone and it was nice to be left with my own impressions.
But hey, I have purchased 5 wedding gowns (5th will be bought on Saturday), so I’m not one to talk!
Post # 8
if you feel it’s really not ‘you’ then don’t go for it. maybe contact the shop & tell them you’re having regrets & ask if you could either (a) cancel the order, or (b) try on other dresses in the shop?
Next time I would just go shopping alone. Personally, I think you sometimes just have to go with your gut & that is easier to do if you do not have the influence of others’ moods or opinions when you’re trying to decide! any good assistant should be able to help you find what you’re looking for.
Post # 9
If you felt that you were pressured into buying something then you should keep looking. No one should “settle” on their wedding dress. And it seems like you want a lighter/softer look than all that satin. See if the dress shop can put your deposit towards a different dress.
By The Way, if budget is an issue, the Mori Lee dress you like is just as pretty as the Lazaro, but at a fraction of the price. No one is going to know!
Post # 10
I totally understand what you’re going through. You dream about your dress your whole childhood you want it to be the right one 🙂 but having said that the dress you picked is breath taking! You look gorgeous in it and I love how long the train is!
Post # 11
the Lazaro you are thinking about is a peachy color and very different from your original dress, boy that is a huge change of mind. For what it is worth, as long as all you are losing is the deposit, I would keep on looking- if you are now looking at a ballgown instead of the orginal dress with a train- it sounds like you really are undecided. Go by yourself this time- I haven’t found having alot of people there is very helpful.