- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
Hi Bees, just wanted to get this off my chest and see if anyone feels the same way!
In August 2010 whilst in the midst of planning our engagement party and wedding my Mother-In-Law died from cancer. We’d already brought our wedding forward so she could make it, but sadly didn’t. Our engagement party was cancelled. With bringing the wedding forward it put a lot of pressure on me to get a dress. I made the WRONG decision and didn’t go with my heart.
Fast forward, we were able to put our wedding back to the original date, 2 months later which was good. I had the worst experience with the boutique (if you’d call it that) as my dress was 3 weeks overdue and came in the week before my wedding and had to have alterations done. The boutique did not apologise once for any wrong doing and treated my Mum and I with utter disrespect. Even the designer herself strutted past us and would not even acknowledge us. I spent $3500 on my dress. I ordered the dress with a lace up back and it was far too small for me, I looked ridiculous on my big day. The dress was the most important material thing to me in my wedding.
It rained on my day, the ceremony had to be moved inside. We had paid $2000 for a Wedge Tailed Eagle to fly down the aisle and deliver the rings. Because there wasn’t enough room for him to fly, he hit the ground before reaching my husband. This is all on a $3000 professional video:)
The photographer was bitchy to us and our videographer. She whinged the whole time at us and even said to my husband “I hope the videographer is not being paid more than I am!”I still can’t believe it! She didn’t get a group photo of everyone and the photos she did get are staged and AWFUL!
My BM’s wouldn’t stop preening themselves and they didn’t even help me out of the car! There I was just sitting in there! I had no help with anything from them and I paid for all their dresses (over $1500) + flowers, jewellery etc.
My husband and I had not one minute to ourselves apart from our beach photo/video shoot where I refused to take the bridal party.
I made our 5 tier wedding cake. After the ‘mock’cutting of the cake I didn’t realise the reception venue took it away and started to dismantle it before our real cake cutting!!!! They slapped it back together and told me they didn’t touch it. My guests photos are of a crooked, horrible looking cake!! It took me 3 straight weeks to make it I finished it the day before the wedding!
Six of our guests didn’t show up at $150.00 per head. Ouch. My Bridesmaid or Best Man (now SIL) was dumped the night before our wedding by her partner of 6 years because he didn’t want to come to our wedding!
Heaps of little things went wrong and I understand that’s just life. I just feel that my “Big Day’was a huge disappointment. I know it’s about marrying my best friend and there are people who will say to get over it but I just can’t seem to let it slide. My husband feels somewhat the same way as me so I suggested we renew our vows in 2013. Not a WHOLE wedding again, ceremony, amazing photographer, less stress, about 10 guests and a beautiful Maggie Sottero gown. Following my heart next time:)
Just wondering if there’s anyone else out there who feels the same way about their wedding day? We’re not having kids so I guess this was just the last “big step”in our lives and it bothers me.