(Closed) I want to elope. He doesn't.

posted 6 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’d compromise.

Have family and close friends only. Keep it below 50-ish and that’ll drastically cut costs, for you, and it will still involve his family that he wants there, for him. Draw the line for family at “only first cousins” or whatever so that all the ones that you want there are present but you don’t have to invite great-aunt-sally-twice-removed just because. Know what I mean?

Nice weddings can be done on a budget and it’s even more helpful if they involve less guests. Our wedding had 80-ish people and only cost around 9K. It could have cost less if we’d wanted it to and if we’d invited less people.

Post # 5
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@brittarose:  Honestly, if you already have attire and a venue, no. I think it could be done. You’d just have to nail it all down asap – catering, photographer. And maybe you don’t get your “first choice” but it doesn’t sound as if you really would be all that bothered, which is excellent. 🙂 You could easily do January or February, even December or earlier. The wedding dress, bm dresses, venue and photographer are the only things that *really* need lots of time and you have all but one of those it sounds like!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

You could also consider a destination wedding, and invite only your close friends and family to come. 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@brittarose:  Save-The-Date Cards aren’t necessary – just make sure you have your invites out on time. Word of mouth is also very powerful. You could do email Save-The-Date Cards if you wanted to and link to a wedding website with details.

Post # 10
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204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

i missed all that while I was posting.  Ok, you don’t have to have a save the date at all, but they really are designed for people that will have to travel for the wedding.  So just get something simple that says the date and the wedding website and just send it to the people that need a little more time to plan.

If you want to have a huge hit of a party, get some kegs.  If everyone always does cash bar, then everyone will be happy to have the free beer, and they can still do cash bar for liquor.

One advantage to planning it so quickly is that your family won’t have too much time to interfere.  Decisions will have to be made quickly, and you and your fi will need to make most of them.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@brittarose:  No problem. Often I joke that we should have just eloped, but I don’t regret having family and friends there. I could have easily planned in less time, and many bees will agree!

here is another thread (it’s old, but you’ll get the idea/advice) that may help you out.

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