I want to end my engagement

posted 10 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

krista90 :  oh bee, I’m sorry. This has to be painful. But you know you’re doing the right thing. If he’s doing this now, imagine what he will do when you’re pregnant, sick, busy, or just when marriage gets stale. 

You cant be happy when you don’t trust someone. You deserve to find someone wonderful who makes you feel adored. Hang in there. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

Agreed with above bee! So so sorry love. That’s incredibly difficult. My heart goes out to you. 

Post # 4
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Newbee

Im so sorry you are going through this. I am your age and though I’m not in your situation now, I have been before. YOU DONT DESERVE THIS. Whatever your situation might be I HAVE BEEN THERE you are worthy of much much more. I know it might sound as just words now but you only have one life, ONE and this is not the way to live it. You deserve pure love and respect. 

it will be super hard at first, especially when you need financial help from him, buy you can do this! Leave! Swallow the embarrassment. Maybe some people will judge you, but that’s just humans, that’s what we do. The people who matter will stand by your side. Soon enough everything will pass, people will move on with their lives and you will too. Get a waitressing job if you need to, until you figure out your life. You will struggle at first but you will be free of a life and a man that do not deserve you.

Anyways, I dont mean to be condescending because I know how hard it is but I really related to your story and wanted to let you know that you are not alone. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

You can’t marry someone you don’t trust, no matter how many invitations have been handed out. 

I’m so sorry for your trouble, but it’s better a tough time now than a bad marriage and divorce.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

You could tell him you’re cancelling the wedding for now and get your ducks in a row.  Most people fear they can’t make it alone, but they find a way when it comes time.  You can do it too.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Oh my dear sweet bee, I’m so truly sorry you are going through this… You absolutely cannot marry this man, all the pain and embarrassment you will go through calling off your engagement will be ten-fould when you end up with a broken marriage and probably an unfaithful husband. 

Please update us about what you end up doing. You will get through this sweety!

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

call off the wedding ceremony bee, the sooner the better. you need to stand up for yourself rather than taking it all in and kept quite because it’ll just get worst. u’ll be embarrassed that’s no doubt for calling off the ceremony, but eventually everyone will move on and so do you.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

krista90 :  

Divorce will be much, much worse than canceling a wedding.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2018 - City, State

Im so sorry..

however- A broken engagement isn’t a huge embarrassment. You haven’t done anything to be embarrassed about- you are dodging a huge bullet!!!! 

Post # 11
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Worker bee

I am so sorry, but like the other Bees said, you do not have a choice, you need to call of this engagement. Like other pointed out, a divorce is way more messy than cancelling an engagement. remeber this is your life; is this really how you want to feel? bacuase it is not going to get better

Post # 12
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Busy bee

krista90 :  First i just wanna say…I am so sorry bee.

Also, you just can’t be happy w/ someone you cannot trust. You deserve someone that makes you feel absolutely wonderful & has you feeling major butterflies. Hang in there. You’d definitely be doing the right thing & dodging a HUGE bullet by calling off this engagement & by not marrying this man! 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Exit plan bee.  Find your support or go back to your parents if you must but you CAN be independent of him.  Have confidence in your abilities.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

You can’t marry someone you can’t trust, Bee. And ending a marriage is far more complicated than ending an engagement. Put the brakes on this wedding. Figure out what you need to do to exit this relationship–make a plan. You can do this. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I’m so sorry Bee. You are making the right choice. Respect yourself Bee. Reach out to close family and friends who can emotionally be supportive of you during this difficult period. Keep doing the things you love and take care of yourself. 

This means blocking him on all social medial and phone and creating physical space. 

Cheating is unacceptable, even if he didn’t ‘do’ anything with this woman. This is 100% a betrayal of your trust. 

Be wary of him gaslighting you, look into emotional detachment to help you. 

So sorry Bee, hang in there. 

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