- 4 years ago
I’m not sure what to do. My fiance and I moved to the midwest from the east coast (I’m from the northeast and he’s from the southeast) and don’t know many people here. It seems unreasonable to ask our friends back east to fly here for our wedding because:
1. We aren’t spending a lot of money on our wedding (he has student loans) so its not going to be “worth” all the trouble.
2. My fiance is in his late 30’s and pretty much all of his friends are married with kids. I understand traveling with small children can be a nightmare.
3. I’m in my mid-twenties…most of my friends don’t have the money at this point to travel, take off from work, etc.
4. My family is large and his is…nonexistent (sad story, not getting into it). Although he has a ton of friends, I can’t help but feel like this ceremony would be very one-sided and he would feel like he is under a lot of pressure from my large family.
5. My family is super Catholic so we are getting married in a Catholic church. Not everyone wants to sit through a Catholic mass! I definitely don’t want to ask our friends to fly out to the midwest just to sit through a catholic mass. Not happening.
So, we decided that we would get married in the local Catholic church with just my parents and siblings in attendance. No poofy white dress, or bells and whistles.
My parents were kind of disappointed that we aren’t planning a more “ceremonious” wedding, and I’m not sure what to say…. Our wedding would be a massive inconvenience to our friends, even though I know they would NEVER say anything, and would attend because they are kind people. We are also saving up to move back to the east coast, and cannot afford to spend money on a traditional wedding with a reception. We live in the middle of farmland, fyi. The closest big city is 3 hours away.
Anyone have a similar situation or have any advice???
EDIT: Now that I think of it, most of my family probably won’t be able to attend seeing as they are much older than my siblings and I and live in Europe.