I want to go back to my maiden name

posted 1 year ago in Engagement
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek

Tough sitauation, Bee. 🙁 At first, I didn’t want to change my name at all. I’m a teacher, so my last name is a big part of my professional identity. Darling Husband wanted us to have the same name for the traditional reasons but would have been fine with whatever I decided. Ultimately, I decided to double-barrel (both last names without a hyphen), so my name is now FirstName MiddleName MaidenName DH’sName. I think it looks cleaner without a hyphen, and I feel like it gives me the ability to go by either or both surnames. It’s a win-win for both of us, and I actually really like having his surname now. I’m not sure if this is soemthing you’d consider, but I just wanted to share my experience.

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

You are not being silly or unreasonable. It’s your name! I know a couple who took each other’s last names as middle names (not sure if they replaced their middles or added the new name as a second middle). Maybe that would be a compromise you’d both be comfortable with?

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