(Closed) I want to have fun at my wedding but old people ruining it?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

It’s your day. I say play what you want and have a good time. I would think the old folks would be understanding, and if they aren’t, they’ll get over it! 

Post # 4
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think you should just play your songs if it’s a few “bad words” scattered here and there. I’m assuming you’re not playing something so explicit that it’s literally a string of cuss words all in a row and that you’re not playing something like that’s like, “Let’s talk about SEX baby”. We played modern pop/hiphop music at our wedding and there were sporadic cuss words and references to sex and no one was horrified, and we had very conservative older folks there. We also went with a kid-free wedding to avoid any horrified parents. We had older folks on the dance floor regardless of the music and those that didn’t dance were unlikely to do so unless we played super old-school music, like the polka or something.

Like you, I specifically didn’t want any traditional wedding songs (e.g. YMCA, Electric Slide). Ironically, I also had a cotton candy machine. LOL


Post # 5
2476 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think the only thing I would worry about in regards to swearing in songs, is if there is a constant stream of profanities…a swear word here and there, not so bad.

Post # 6
72 posts
Worker bee

@AquaGrey8962:  Try to get the “radio edit” versions of the songs you want … you know, the ones that bleep or modify the offending lyrics. Once everyone is up dancing, you won’t even notice that the music was the cleaned up version.

Post # 7
4049 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@amethystJCM:  This. Play the songs you want, but use the radio version. That will clean up most music just fine, and if it’s still really explicit, then just drop those special cases.

Post # 8
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@AquaGrey8962:  I wouldn’t play the Queers’ Fuck the World, but if the songs aren’t FULL of swears, no one will notice.  Old people don’t even know music anyway.  Who cares?    Just make sure you have a few of the ones everyone will dance to — we had Twist and Shout which was fun.

Post # 9
1101 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@AquaGrey8962:  I’ll assume I am an “old” person based on your description.  Last year at my nieces wedding, a vast majority of the guests were mid-late 20s. The DJ was sticking to my niece’s play list (modern, techno, etc.).  None of the 20-somethings were dancing, but all of “old” people were.  My niece eventually talked to the DJ and told him to throw out her play list.  He played much more of variety, but still, only us “oldies” were dancing.  

Don’t assume who will/will not dance just based on age.  I have a blast dancing at weddings and special occasions.  You select a good variety, a playlist that reflects your tastes, and try to avoid anything that you know will be just too offensive for most of your guests (a minor cuss word, who cares?).  The best wedding receptions I’ve been to get everyone out on the dance floor having fun (those that have dancing anyway).

Post # 10
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Nobody will notice or care if there are bad words. If they do care, they need to get a life! 

Post # 11
12248 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@AquaGrey8962:  Does your Fiance think old people have never heard profanity or something? They’re going to hate 80% of the music produced in the last 20 years anyway… So you might as well play the music you’ll enjoy!

Post # 12
8389 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

The majority of the people dancing at my wedding were 40+, so I’m not sure where anyone gets the idea that “old” people won’t dance!

Post # 13
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

can you compromise and play some of ‘those’ songs past 10? by then grandmas and older guests may have gone home 🙂 


Post # 14
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We gave our DJ a general idea of our favorite music, but told her we’d really prefer if they just read the crowd. You said you want to have fun and dance, won’t you have more fun if more people are dancing, even if it’s not to your favorite music? And in my experience, plenty of the older crowd dances if you play the right music!

About the cuss words though, depending on how bad it is I don’t think people will even notice. Or just use edited versions. Or you could have some of those songs played as instrumental versions during dinner.

Post # 15
2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would let the DJ handle this one.

Post # 16
4771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@AquaGrey8962:  I think  you have a terrible definition of old people.  I thought 80 year olds were raining on your parade.  Play whatever you want 30 and 40 year olds are not living under rocks and won’t turn into one either if they hear a bad word.

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