(Closed) I want to hurt my mailperson-Invitations ruined!

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

I would leave a bomb in my mailbox for tomorrow…(JOKING! DON’T DO IT!)

but seriously, I would simply call those to whom the invites were addressed, inform them of what happened, and then send them the ruined invite as well as a generic invite from Walgreens with all the info they need.  They’ll get a kick out of the ruined invites (in a good way!) and they’ll still be able to RSVP.  As a guest I would definitely empathize, so I think you’ll be fine.  I would also bring the invites into the post office and talk to the supervisor about the problem.  Let them know that your other invites arrived without incident.  They may offer you something for the trouble!

Post # 4
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

How ruined are they? Just the outer envelope? Is there any way you can open the entire invite and double check? 

What a story… Were the invites that needed to be delivered for people who you know are going to your wedding for sure? Or were you inviting them as a ‘courtesy’?

I know what you mean about not having extra invites… we ran out too. (This is extremely tacky– but if the people you know are the sentimental kind that would really like an invite… you can always ask someone you know who is less sentimental- and have admitted they will toss the invite, to instead save it and give it to you?) —> Just a thought. 

I would be pretty upset too… Actually I think I might be slightly distraught- especially since I know the effort I went through double checking/triple checking that all my addresses were correct. I bet you did the same too.  

Post # 5
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ugh i had like 4 invites come back addressed incorrectly apparently. One I didn’t receive until 3 weeks after i mailed it out! Wtf. I have to take them out, open them up, repackage them, add MORE STAMPS and readdress them. It’s a big pain. I say it depends on who they are. if this happened to me and i received this invite, i’d just go "well, ShT happens!"

Post # 6
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235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Ooooh I totally agree with Sparkles – do you have siblings or parents who would be willing to part with theirs?  While it might seem tacky, it is an emergency.

Otherwise, just go to Kinkos and have them print up something for you on cardstock and send that.  

Post # 7
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699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Also, just tell them what happened so they know why they are getting them late (if they have already heard about others getting them). But I think the other posters have some really good ideas.

(random actual good story about the USPS…cause they are few and far between, obviously!) I actually got one of our pocket invites returned in a USPS envelope with a personal note on it that said "this was found loose in the mail". I was shocked! They actually opened it up, looked at the RSVP return address and sent it back to me! I thought that was extremly nice and thoughtful of them to do!

Post # 8
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5399 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would march over to the post office and give them a piece of my mind!  Who knows, maybe you’ll at least get some free stamps out of it or something.  As for the invites, if you know a few people that could spare theirs, like close family, I would ask for theirs.  If that doesn’t work, I would call the other invited people, let them know what happened, and still send the messed up invite and include at least a reply card simply printed on cardstock.  Good luck and let us know how it turns out!

Post # 9
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232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

i had one invite (so far) that came back ‘address unknown’ written in red across the front.  it was a cousin, so we called her and her parents, explained the situation and asked them if they can rsvp for her on their rsvp card as it is too late to send her one now.  it took over three weeks to be returned, and my parents would have to send it back to me in order for me to remail it back to her.

in your case, if there are no relatives than can rsvp on their behalf, just call and explain the situation and send the info to them in with a store bought invite or an email (or a borrowed one from a family member).  they will most surely understand.

sorry – that totally stinks. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I think now that you’ve had some time to look at the situation, you seem to realize it is really not such a big problem. There is really only so much you can control and then it is out of your hands. At least the post office returned them to you, what if they were delivered to the wrong address then you would never know that the invitees never recieved their invitations. To be honest, I think we sometimes need to step back from wedding planning. Going to the post office and giving someone "a piece of your mind" won’t solve anything and you yre not going to get free stamps because it is a government office. Is it really worth ruining someone else’S fday over a couple of invitations. I understand the invitations were made with love and you want everyone to get them but think your method of drying them and pressing in a book is a good way to try and improve a less than ideal situation. If it makes you feel better my mom told me that some of her invitations arrived in guests mailboxes ripped up in plastic zip lock bags with a brief note of appology from the post office and some never arrived at all (including the groom’s parents’) and my dad worked for the post office at the time. I hope all my invitations arrive in one piece but when something like this goies wrong I feel like you just have to make the best of it and have a good laugh.

Post # 12
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250 posts
Helper bee

I would not let it go.  The post office has  "customer service" department and unless you complain things will continue to go wrong. 

 

I would then put the invitations in a larger envelope and remail them to the intended recipients with a brief note.    

Then you know you have done your best.

Post # 13
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2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

If the invites are totally ruined, I would hand-write an invitation to those people on some nice stationery, explaining the run-in with the mail and the weather. In the days of yore this is how all wedding invitations were done. 🙂

If I received a messed-up invitation in the mail, I would be confused and a little taken aback. I would rather receive my own personalized note in lieu of a ruined invite. I know you probably worked really hard on those invites to make them beautiful, but if they’re ruined I’d abandon them—I don’t think they need to see the proof that you tried.

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