(Closed) I want to invlove our mothers in the ceremony!

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1580 posts
Bumble bee

Well first, I think it is highly unlikely that lighting unity candles would result in burning the church down…haha, but you could do a sand ceremony or something like that with the mothers filling up each of your vases before you join the sands.

Are you doing any readings?

Post # 4
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Sand ceremonies seem to be pretty popular, maybe your moms could bring up the sand?  Both of our parents walked both of us down the aisle, which was really nice.  At my sister’s wedding, there was a place where the officiant asked the parents of both the bride and groom to consent to support the couple in their marriage, which was also really nice.

Post # 5
1565 posts
Bumble bee

You could do a water or sand ceremony in lieu of the unity candle, which would both involve your moms. We are asking our moms to do readings of love poems or prose about love.

Post # 7
47 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

My Fiance and I also wanted to incorporate our mothers into the ceremony, so our Justice of the PEace is adding in a part to the ceremony where my Fiance and I will present flowers to our mothers.

Post # 8
1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Could you have both of them do a reading?  That could be a nice and simple way to involve them.

Post # 9
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

We had both our parents walk us down the aisle.  Also, during the ring exchange part of the ceremony, our moms came up and assisted the priest instead of an Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man.  My Mother-In-Law stood on my husband’s side and held the rings; my mom stood on my side and held my bouquet.  🙂  It was really special to us.  And, our moms signed as witnesses on the marriage license.

Post # 10
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We didn’t do a unity candle or sand ceremony either but instead had our officiant read a section we wrote that talked about how instrumental our moms were in getting us to this point in our lives and how much we appreciated them.  Then we presented each of them with a small bouquet of their favorite flowers.  Mini callas for the groom’s mom and Lilies of the Valley for mine.  It was a great moment and the flowers were gorgeous, especially since they weren’t part of the overall decor so they really stood out.

Post # 11
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

If you are Catholic you could have the mothers combine two flower halos together and place them on the Virgin Mary, simiilar to May Crowning.  If not, I love the idea of having both parents walking down the aisle with you!

Post # 12
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

This website has some ideas of different ceremonies you could include:


Since you’re getting married in church you could do a lasso ceremony


My friend had a crystal rosary lasso it was really beautiful, but apparently u can have floral, rope, cord, all kinds.  I think it’s Either a double rosary or just a big circle that they place in figure 8 shape around the bride and grooms neck.  Your Moms can place it on you guys, as a way of including them. 

Post # 13
1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We are also doing a flower presentation to our moms.

Post # 14
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Mrs. Spring, I loved your idea of having the moms assist in the ring ceremony. 

We are having a secular wedding and I think we will both be walked down the aisle by both of our parents.

An idea for you, smith – your moms could bring flowers or say something about those important people who have passed away?  Not to be morbid…but if she’s going to be crying anyway…

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