(Closed) I want to kill my mother!!!! GROWL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Do you know anyone who could talk to your mother for you? Sounds like she needs to hear this from someone else. Bless you for not freaking out at her yet!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Oh I am so sorry. How frustrating. My mom is hell bent on calla lilies. I like calla lilies okay, but they are not my thing. She keeps pushing them from bouquets, to invites. It’s not my theme and everyone who knows me would know I didn’t pick it. She really wants a candy/sweets table, but I don’t want the added stress of making all the stuff she has in mind. Oreos dipped in white chocolate colored with my colors, etc. ARG! I want to simplify, but she keeps getting ideas. I am such a people pleaser, it is hard to turn her down. She takes it well, at least. Sounds like you don’t have that luxury. I think a lot of MOBs like to plan the wedding they couldn’t have.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

i have been in the same boat with my mom. i just stand my ground and tell her, it’s not about what other people want, it’s what we want, it’s our wedding. if they want “whatever” they can go else where. good luck! it’s a daily battle for me to

Post # 9
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3639 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Would it be possible to get her on the internet? Show her how people have coloured shoes and chocolate cake etc? Or might that just give her more crazy ideas? 😛

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t know your mom…but it sounds like she just wants you to have the best wedding possible. Whether your view of the best is the same or not.

Maybe she did not have the wedding of her dreams and she wants to give YOU it. Even though her dream wedding and your dream wedding isn’t the same?

Have you tried just talking to her when you guys aren’t in the middle of wedding related things?

Maybe take her out of brunch or something with no wedding talk and try to see where she is coming from and let her see where you are coming from?

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My mom gets the same way too.  She finally saw the light on my centerpiecs.  She hated my color scheme.  She wanted her friend to decorate the hall, I barely like the friend and her style is not my own.  I think your just going to have to keep up with the battle of the wills.  Hopefully your engagement will not be a long time.

Post # 14
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979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My mom gets the same way too.  She finally saw the light on my centerpiecs.  She hated my color scheme.  She wanted her friend to decorate the hall, I barely like the friend and her style is not my own.  I think your just going to have to keep up with the battle of the wills.  Hopefully your engagement will not be a long time.

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