Post # 17
I went for a natural birth in the hospital with DS and well it didn’t exactly happen that way. I’m going for a home birth this time with a midwife and feel much better that I’ll be able to birth completely natural.
Depending on where you live a couple things to think about are:
Finding a Doctor that is pro-natural birth. This is can be kinda difficult with many Doctors pushing for scheduled inductions & c-sections (I know this isn’t everywhere but in my area it is) When looking for a Doctor go through your birthing wishes sooner as opposed to later, ask what their c-section rate is (I know in the state of Texas they by law have to know this and report it) And don’t be scared to switch Doctors if you feel like your Doctor is pushing or pressuring something you don’t want. My midwife has had MANY of her mommas switch from obgyns to her b/c of things like this… some even AFTER their due dates. In my area the only way to get a natural birth alot of times is home birth. =/
Learn what you can about what our bodies are able to do. Ina May is pretty avid in natural birthing and has been in the midwifery business for a looooong time… with a VERY low intervention & c-section rate. Also, the Bradley Method is pretty popular for natural birthing and many cities have Bradley classes you can take… look into this early as it’s like a 12 week class or something like that. I also always advise knowing the possible side effects of interventions commonly used.
A couple of good documentaries on birthing are “The Business of Being Born” and “Pregnant in America”
Post # 18
this is my favorite blog to stalk, my Fiance and I plan to start trying to get pregnant a few hours after our wedding and I definitely am not having a hospital birth!
There’s also a lot of great documentaries out there about it! ‘the business of being born’ and ‘pregnant in america’ are really good (but very bias just FYI!)
Post # 19
haha you beat me to it =)
Post # 20
Thanks for all the great resources.
I am worried about the intervention that I don’t want. I live in Rapid City, South Dakota and there are not any birthing centers. I just don’t want to be touched by so many different people and hospital births to be seem so medical. It seems like the doctor is suiting up for surgery instead of birthing a child!
I have all of these ideas in my head about what I want, but I am going to my annual on Monday and I will chat with the midwife then.
Post # 21
You can have a good birth in a hospital. Try searching for a “Baby Friendly” certified hospital. They really try to encourage breastfeeding and that flows over into giving the mother the experience she wants. A happy mother is more likely to keep trying at breastfeeding if it doesn’t go well at first! Even if you choose not to breastfeed, the environment is so much more mother-child centered rather than focusing on the medical aspect only.
Post # 22
Has anyone read Natural Hospital Birth: Best of Both Worlds? I have a feeling that (natural + hospital) will be what DH and I will end up doing when the time comes, and I’m curious if anyone would recommend the book. Or any other books! I’ll read anything I can get my hands on if it will help me prepare for a good pregnancy and birth experience.
Post # 23
i dont have any kids yet but dh and i are ntntc and i have pretty much made up my mind… i want a water birth! there is a birthing center here thats about 5 minutes from the hospital so i feel ‘safe’ about being there…. youtube water birth…. its amazing how relaxed the mother and baby are 🙂
Post # 24
I just had an unmedicated birth 3 weeks ago! We planned for a home birth, but we ended up transferring to the hospital after about 22 hours of labor and 2 1/2 hours of pushing. My team consisted of my husband, my midwife and an assistant midwife. My team ended up also including OB that backs up the midwifes and the rest of the hospital personnel. There is one OB in our area that actually attends home births. He was my original doc, but he was going to be out of the country for the 2 weeks surrounding my due date, so we decided we needed to change care providers. There are 2 midwifes that attend home births in our area, we interviewed them both and made our decision based on those interviews. To prepare for labor we took a Brio Birth class and that was extremely helpful to both of us. We considered having a dula (our birth instructor is one) but decided against it. I think for the next birth I would have one, and if we had a hospital birth we would definitely have one!
I have to say, someone once told me that child birth is the worst pain you will ever forget. I have to agree with this statement. Three weeks later, I can’t really tell you what most of the contractions felt like; however, the pushing contractions really hurt. This might be Too Much Information, or a bit graphic, but I could really feel them in my butt. It felt like I had to take an enormous poo…like the biggest poo of my life. Actually pushing him out was similar to how pp described…burning. I also had a 2nd degree tear, so that was uncomfortable.
I would say that just being prepared and educated about the process of labor and child birth was very helpful. I would also recommend staying home for as long as possible (if you have to go the hospital at all). For us, being at home was peaceful…the hospital was much busier feeling with a lot of people and chatter in our room.
I am going to PM you a link to my son’s birth story that was written by my husband. He talks a little about his process of coming to terms with having a home birth. This might help with your SO.
Post # 25
@JessisGirl: My birth wasn’t medication free, but because of a health condition an epidural was not an option for me. I was induced, so pitocin was involved, and I was in tremendous pain, so narcotics were involved. And it was obviously in a hospital, so it wasn’t as natural as you might be looking to hear about.
But the pain medications came very late, after hours of practicing breathing exercises as well as use of the birthing ball, alternative positions, etc. Do let me know if you have any questions.
Post # 26
I had my son in a hosptial but with no meds at all..he was due sept 16th but decided he wanted to come early..my baby shower was on August 20th and i had my amazing little boy August 21st 2005 =) the whole time i was pregnant i planned on doing it with no meds, i just feel like its better for the baby, well the day came and well i was completely surprised that i was in labor! I got to the hosptial around 9am they checked me as soon as i got in the bed i was already 7cm dialated! they broke my water and boy were the contractions CRAZY! lol but i just focused on having him and there was a split second i thought i might need meds but i stayed focused..i had my son at 12:48pm, not to many hrs and he was perfect..all you have to do is breath, and once you start pushing you push against the pain, once he was born all the pain went away =) i say def try without meds..like other posters have said everyone is different, you will know when its time
Post # 27
My first child I had almost completey natural I used Laughing gas which is more of a distraction than something used to stop the pain I was also on a gravel drip because I was throwing up everywhere. With the laughing gas I found I was groggy after the birth and a bit panicky after having the baby kind of like smoking one of those funny cigarettes back in highschool HAHAHA
My Second I was completely drug free the Labor was very quick (3 hrs from when my water broke to having the baby) but I was more alert after having the baby and not out of it like I did for the first
I had them both in the hospital and for the first I am glad I did because he was BLUE when he was born. They say the reason was that I was not breathing when I was pushing. The nurses were great after the baby was born they really helped you with breastfeeding they show you how to bath the baby. They monitor you for any signs of depression. I think it was a great experience.
Post # 28
I had both my babies at home with a midwife. After the research I’ve done I was more scared to go into the hospital. They intervene with labor and delivery so much that they usually end up causing problems that turn into “emergencies”. Read “The Thinking Woman’s Guide to a Better Birth”, “Pushed” and watch the movie “The Business of Being Born.” Having my natural childbirths in the comfort of my own home with my midwife and only those that I loved surrounding me was life changing and the best experience of my life. They were long labors but I absolutely would do it again no questions. Words can’t even describe how awesome it was!
Post # 29
No personal experience, but I loved reading Mrs. Avocado’s personal blog about her birth. http://thatwifeblog.com/
Post # 30
Thanks for the book recommendations! I’m reading Your Best Birth now, and I’m eager for any other books/blogs/movies etc on the subject.
Post # 31
I’m planning a natural childbirth in a hospital. No personal experience, but there are tons of women here who have done it. I think some hospitals and doctors are more natural friendly (I’m US military going to a base hospital in the UK, not a UK bee.). My OB before we left the states was very, very natural friendly too.
The clinic on base here has in-house midwives and has assured me I can have intermittent monitoring, no drugs, an IV port instead of a full IV, the baby can be placed on my chest immediately following birth so I can breastfeed immediately, etc. I’ll let you know how it all goes in March. lol
I do recomment you read Your Best Birth in addition to the other books that were recommended. I really enjoyed it and found it informative. I totally second Ina May Gaskin too. Also, in addition to the Bradley method, you should look into hypnobirthing.
Edit: I read Pushed as well. Keep in mind that it is informative, but very biased.