(Closed) I want to marry a month from today, when my daughter visits…help!!!

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you guys have talked about marriage before, just stress how important it is for your daughter to be there for it. I’m guessing that he won’t care so much since it is going to be a relatively budget-friendly wedding. Are you already living together? I think that would be the biggest hang-up if you aren’t…

Post # 5
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Would you be open to the idea of proposing to him? 

Post # 7
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mermaideve: I respectfully submit that “practically have” is not actually have. I’m not trying to come across as a hard nose but if getting married in a month when your daughter is able to be there is your priority then it sounds like you’d better get a move on and ask him. You’ve got a few days to plan something for this weekend – wishing you the best of luck!

Post # 8
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Can I ask, is there a reason that he is waiting to ask you?

Post # 9
10365 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

All you can do is tell him why, when, how, etc about your feelings regarding this, including that you want him to ask you. It’s up to you guys – you already know what you need to do, so get to it instead of asking us! 😉

Post # 10
3586 posts
Sugar bee

Tel him why it’s important to have her there and he needs to get a move on. 🙂 This is serious, not just a “I want THIS date” problem.

Post # 11
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Make aromatic dinner or Go out on a date,and tell him, be honest with him, and tell him everything you feel,want and like. Tell him the wedding plan. And Start planning everything. You can do it!

Post # 12
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

engagment chicken

Post # 13
29 posts
  • Wedding: July 2009

@mermaideve: That seems like a really short engagement… especially for someone who isn’t engaged yet.

Is there any particular reason why, other than your daughter’s visit, this should happen so suddenly?  I mean, wouldn’t she come back for a wedding at a later date?


Post # 14
1558 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I really do think that is possible to have such a short engagement, but only if he’s willing to “get engaged”. 

As far as planning the wedding, it sounds to me like you’re not expecting a big to-do… just a simple ceremony and dinner with family and friends. Honestly, we have more people than that at our family Christmas dinner, so organizing a wedding with 20 guests sounds easy peasy to me!

Post # 15
2012 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

How long have you guys been together?  If you haven’t been together that long, I think its asking a lot of him to skip over the engagement period (and the proposal). Had you previously discussed a date of when you were planning getting married? If you were thinking a year or two down the road – one month is a HUGE leap from that. 

I think you should discuss your idea with you boyfriend, but don’t pressure him to get married in such a short period of time if he is not comfortable with the idea. If he hasn’t proposed yet, he might not be ready for marriage. That will not change just because your daughter is coming to visit.

Good luck!


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