(Closed) I want to mismatch bridesmaids but no one will give me their opinion. Help!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center

For my wedding, I went to AA and picked out the color, fabric, and length. My girls are scattered around the country, so they went into the store and found the style they liked and felt comfortable in. I think it worked really well for us.



For your wedding: Since you aren’t set on a color, I would talk to your bridesmaids and see what color they feel comfortable in. I know I look terrible in red and orange, so I would really hate to wear a dress that color.


Post # 4
3830 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it would be cool with mismatched colours/similar style. 

I did mismatched tones of the same colour (some in dark, some in light) and they all chose thier own dress. I had alot of compliments that each girl got to have their own style and it ended up looking amazing together. So i say do WHATEVER you want. Honestly it will look great and the girls will really appreicate getting a dress that is their style. 

Post # 5
2610 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I will post below how I did mine…same length and color but different styles. There dresses match the sash on my dress. I think something like this could work for you as well. I think red would be the best bet on a color that is more flattering on everyone over orange and yellow. I personally look horrible in yellow, washes me out. But you know your girls and can probably figure out what would look nice.

I like the idea of mismatching colors too for you but I would leave out the green. I think red, yellow, and orange would all look very nice together but green would stand out a lot as being different. So maybe you could find a fourth color that’s like an orange-red or something in between or have two of the girls wear the same color.

Either way I would stick to the same length, it gives a good cohesiveness.

Here’s what I went with for mine…


Post # 7
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would give the girls direction to what you are wanting (color and fabric) ask what lengths they prefer and let them loose from there.

See what color looks best on all of them and go from there.

Post # 8
12248 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@jordanl1027:  Different dresses in the same length and color (and fabric)!

Post # 9
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I had four bridesmaids in four different body types. I picked a color and fabric from Dressilyme and linked them to the chiffon bridesmaids dresses and told them to pick a style. Each girl picked a different style, and they all looked great.

Post # 10
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I was just in a wedding and the bride let as all pick our own dress with the requirement that they were long and all the same fabric(chiffon) then when we had a dress picked out she woukd look at the color swashes from the designers and told us which color to order. It looked really great. We were all in different color/style dresses and it looked perfect. The only thing matching was shoe color and our hair pieces. Good luck.

Post # 11
524 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center

@jordanl1027:  If you’re not sure on the color, it might be worthwhile going to Alfred Angelo with at least one of your bridesmaids and having them try on dresses in the colors you are thinking about. If all of the girls can go, you can even try having them in different colors.

Post # 12
242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@jordanl1027:  Because your concern is finding something that will work with each girl’s body type, I would just set a color, length, and fabric and then show them the different styles they will have to choose from. Maybe that will mean strapless/halter/spaghetti strap/wide strap. I think that would make it look most cohesive.

I got my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses from Alfred Angelo. I found that they mostly just had a ton of strapless dresses, but I was able to find two dresses that worked well on different body types. I took a Bridesmaid or Best Man who is 5’8 and a size 2 and my Maid/Matron of Honor who is 5’2 and size 14. I actually found two dresses that looked great on both of them:

The 8606 is what I went with because I really wanted something with straps:

And this one looked really nice on both of them as well, the 7196:


You can probably wait to pick your colors until after you find a shape or shapes for the dress that you are happy with. 

I know what you mean though, I expected my Bridesmaid or Best Man to give more input, but they were like “we will wear whatever you want” so I was like fine, you’ll all wear this in plum and they all just quietly ordered it. Maybe it’s tv and movies that make us think people will rise up against us as brides? Did not happen to me (so far!) 🙂

Post # 14
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Since all your girls are different shapes I would definetly recommend same length but different styles. I would also suggest same color and just the different colors to really make the bouquets stand out. If your dress has red in it, I would do the same shade of red for the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. Alfred Angelo has a TON of different styles, lots of plus size options and I am pretty sure all of them can come in extra length (for your tall girls). (i worked at a bridal shop that carried AA). And the nice thing about a Sept wedding is that whether you choose long or short dresses- neither will look out of place (short dresses for a JAN wedding for example i think looks weird). 

As for the material, different materials will have a slight color variation. If this is a concern for you, then tell your girls the dress has to be satin. 1. because this will give them the most choices and 2. because I am pretty sure that is what your dress is (I think I know what dress you are talking about). 

So to summarize– same length/color/and satin. Have the bouquets pull in all the other colors

Post # 15
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I told them the color, they picked the style:

They picked their own material & length, luckily the length ended up being really uniform.  I then told them to wear whatever black dress shoes they already owned so nobody would have to go out and purchase anything other than the dress.

Post # 16
2167 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@jordanl1027:  In my experience when people won’t give me their opinion on something when I ask them for it it’s usually because they know I won’t like their answer.


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