(Closed) I want to mismatch bridesmaids but no one will give me their opinion. Help!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
2625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Same color and fabric, different styles!

Post # 18
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@jordanl1027:  Per your last question, I would go to a store that carries AA bridesmaid dresses and ask to see color swatches. Have them grab the different fabric color swatches and look at how the neutral tones look next to your dress. If they don’t have your dress, at least look to see how the swatches look next to the colors in your dress. This will help you get an idea of it you want just 1 nuetral or multiple. Also, with 4 girls, I would either go for all different neutrals (not sure if that will work), 2 different colors or 1. That way you dont have 3 girls in one neutral and 1 in another. Unless you put your Maid/Matron of Honor in a different neutral, but personally I’m not crazy about that idea

Also, compare how many choices the girls will have if you go with chiffon versus satin. It seems like you personally dont have a preference, so I would try to pick the fabric that gives them the most options. 

If you are wanting to have a slight color difference (based on you saying “different shades of neutral”, then not limiting the fabric is another way to get this. Chiffon will be slightly lighter than satin).

Post # 19
787 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013


My girls are mis-matched, too. I told them black (preferably with some lace detailing as my dress is all lace), knee-length, no scary cleavage or skin-tight, preferably with a bit of an a-line skirt. I know they’ll look pretty mis-matched, but it was easier to let them pick something for their body types than for me to chase them down and force them into something.  

I also told them to make it a “true” black – no grays – but if I was going with a brighter colour, I’d probably go to the Home Depot and grab a paint card and say “stick to this palette”.  

My recommendation would definitely be to not ask anyone else what they want/think anymore – you make a decision and tell them what it is (in a nice way, lol).  As for the colour they should wear, my top choice for a white/red wedding dress would be either burnt orange, champagne or pearl/beige. Good luck!

Post # 20
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Definitely pick a specific color, length, fabric and designer (one that makes a whole bunch of different dresses).  I think you have to have a lot of bridesmaids (8+) to make the multicolored thing really work.  I was going let each girl pick their own dress from the Bill Levkoff short chiffon line in plum because like you I have a wide variety of sizes in my bridal party (including my teenage sister as my MOH).  However, once the last girl found her dress everyone liked it better than theirs so we ended up going with that dress for everyone.  


Honestly- if your dress has a lot of red I might stick away from the red with the bridesmaids.  It is a bright bold color and will draw attention away from you in red.  I would go with maybe a muted green.  Green is the complementary color to red, so it will really make you stick out!  Black would look really sharp too!

Post # 21
604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I say pick the color and fabric and have them pick the style.  I let my BM’s pick their dresses, as long as they were the same color.  They chose 2 different Alfred Angelo styles. 


@TrousseauHorse:  Two of my BMs are wearing the 8606, in that same plum color!

Post # 22
292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I did mismatched dresses, different colors and styles and it looked gorgeous. I gave each maid a color and a general fabric type, and told them to get what they wanted. It turned out beautifully. However, they were extremly stressed about it, worried about if their colors/styles would fit with the others. I honestly wasn’t worried about it, but they didn’t believe me. Keep their comfort/stress in mind when deciding. I tried to keep it simple, but the I think I ended up stressing them out more. They did all love their dresses though:)

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