@lealorali: Thank you, it’s so sweet that you remembered my invitations! All aesthetic things around the wedding went just fine, I’m very pleased how that worked out. Part of that did involve that we did change the venue though, something that my dad resisted out of pride – so I guess that might have spilled over on the wedding a little… On the other hand, he did eventually admit that it was a good change (we went to the place they had originally signed with, the first thing I saw was a ton of mobile homes, the second a man without a shirt and a huge spider net tattoo covering his man boob… not the way I had pictured our wedding venue). He was also happy for a few days after that so I think that entire things was less of an issue than the overall stress and animosity towards DH’s parents… But then again, who really knows…
@tmsing: Oh, there was definitely things that were lovely. All my friends, SIL and my brother playing in the church, grandmas wedding speech that made everyone cry… Lot’s of things that I hope will be what I remember mostly a few years down the line. It’s just that right now I’m having this lump of anxiety in my tummy that things will never been right between my parents, Darling Husband and me… :/
@trueblue14: Ah, tired kitten! 🙂
Yes, you’re right – I should try to focus on the good things. Just wish the negative people would let me be for a little while so that I can heal up a little more!
@Nona99: Argh! Super scary little puppy! That’s just all wrong! Puppy’s are not supposed to be scary!!!
@MsJ2theZ: I’ve been quite meek in the past and worked up a more confrontational side to myself during the last few years, basically trying hard not to take shit. So part of me just want to slam down hard on this, but then there’s the part of me who thinks that it will just get all worse if I do. I just really don’t want to be in a place where I go “You know, this and this and this hurt me” and they tell me that I’m ungrateful… The fact that they covered so much of the reception does make me feel like I’m just not entitled to any complaints.If that makes sense…
As for France, how long are you going for? We were there just over a week, two days in Paris and the rest of the time driving through the Loire Valley and out to the Bay of Biscay. It was absolutely love, one of the best trips that I’ve made! However, if you’re going late September, perhaps it’s better to go down to the south? I would have loved a trip down to Provence, perhaps making a detour into Monaco and Italy (just be aware that French high ways are toll roads, so if you plan to do a lot of driving you should probably budget between 10-15 euros per day for that).
@TakeTwo: Thanks for your sweet words! I’m sorry you had a bad experience as well, but glad to hear that you and your husband stayed strong through it. I do feel like all of this brought Darling Husband and me even closer – especially that terrible experience with my brother. I mean, I know he has a phobia for water and he still jumped in! As for knowing my family the best, true… but they acted so unexpected on this one that I felt really lost – you bees have really helped sorting my thoughts!
@sienna76: Whoha… I’m so sorry your family acted like that. One would have thought that they could at least have faked a little bit of interest. That said, it sounds like you made the absolutely best choice to elope and as I’ve said before – your wedding photos are my absolute favourite ones of all the photos I’ve seen here on the bee! Even though your family wasn’t there, your photos looks so full of love – better to share that with people that are truly happy for you than a bunch of people that sit there out of pure obligation! Hugs!