Post # 32
@LadyBear: Ah, thank you! I love that dress and never had a second of dress regret from the moment I tried it!
@tmsing: I’ve been very lucky in that I’ve mostly had a good relationship to my parents through my entire life. However, if they decide to side with each other against my husband I see no other solution to the problem than to pick his side. Sure, I can try to discuss things with them and try to smooth what ever bumps I’m able to spot – but the baseline is that I’ll distance myself from them if they continue to act like this (there has been some difficulties in the past as well, but I had hoped they would make an effort for my wedding…). It’s all very sad, but as you said – my husband is now my new family and the person I’ll first step up to defense.
Post # 33
I think you guys need to stay away from your families for awhile. That’s my best advice.
Post # 34
@eocenia: I have always loved reading your posts and comments. You are so sweet. Congratulations on your brand new marriage and wonderful husband! I’m so sorry that your family behaved so badly. I had some pre-wedding events where family members behaved horribly and left me a sobbing mess (in public because we had an appointment we couldn’t miss!). I still have some negative feelings and anxiety about the events, but it has gotten better over time. I hope that things smooth out with your family and you feel better soon. I think taking some time for yourself and your husband as you have and have planned is a great idea.
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Post # 35
@lh526: Thanks, we will! I think I need a little time to heal before I meet them next time. I love my parents, but at this point I feel like I need to process what happened before I can spend time with them again. I want to enjoy the time we have together, especially as we can’t see each other so often, and right now I mostly feel anxiety thinking of them. That must change before I feel like I can go back to Sweden.
@MsCarabiner: That’s so sweet, thank you – you just made me so very happy!
There were many things with the wedding that I loved and enjoyed (one recap here) so I’m sure as time goes by I’ll learn to focus more on that than what went wrong. I also hope that time will heal the wounds regarding my family and how that went down. So sorry to hear about what you went through, crying in public is such a horrible thing. Makes me grateful that I could at least hide away in grandmas garden for my break down. :/ One thing I’ve learned from all of this is that my family means well, but can’t handle stress – so I’ll never again place myself in a situation where I have to try to manage not only my own stress but theirs as well. So much for going back there if we ever have a baby… But at least I feel like I gained some awareness, that’s something at least.
Post # 36
Ditto on what MsCarbiner said. I really have loved reading your sweet posts about your wedding prep, and you seem to be such a kind person. I really did a double take when I read your OP, hoping it wasn’t who I thought it was, but it was you.
So sad that you had such a sour experience with your wedding. It’s no consolation really, but I have heard it said that the worse the wedding, the better the marriage.
Hoping time heals things with your folks. It seems like it could be a big, stressful, crazy misunderstanding. Here’s hoping that’s exactly what it is.