(Closed) I want to rip my hair out!!!!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My husband’s friend was like that.  I was finally like “give me the phone.  I’m going to call and tell him we’re sorry he can’t make it.”  He called him and said “I need to know right now!”  This was all 2 weeks past the RSVP deadline, which was a month before the wedding – when invites went out over a month before that.  In the end he “couldn’t get off work.”

Post # 5
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Aw cut ’em a little slack. Most people would just now be getting out invitations for your wedding date. It’s hard to get some people to nail down a firm reply 2 months in advance. Have other family members call the cousins – someone is bound to have a number. Let them know you need a reply or you won’t be reserving them a spot.

If it makes you feel any better (or just laugh), we came home from our honeymoon with an RSVP in our mail letting us know the couple couldn’t attend, postmarked for two days after the wedding. Gee, thanks!

Post # 6
1 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am going through the EXACT same thing. I have FB’d a cousin of mine 4x–first asking for her address to send the invitation–she didn’t respond, had to get it from her sister–then had to fb her to ask if she got the invitation–no response–now the deadline is up & I’ve fb’d her 2x more, saying “I really need to know if you are coming” & “I’ll take that as a NO”. I know she’s been on Facebook too, that makes it worse. I’ve had a friend of 25 years stop talking to me, people RSVP with guests who were not invited with a guest, RSVP with their kid to an ADULT reception.  People really show their true colors when you’re getting married. All manners go out the window.  This has been pure hell. One month from tomorrow & it’s over. I can’t wait. And I’m sad that I have to say that. =(

Post # 7
3697 posts
Sugar bee

FWIW: our wedding is a week after yours, and we just mailed our invitations this past Friday and Saturday (deadline 8/29, a month ahead of our wedding date). Yes, it makes the planning challenging, but I do think it’s a little unrealistic to set the R.s.v.p. deadline two months before the event. Human nature is what it is, and R.s.v.p.s already have a fairly low response rate under the best of circumstances … you were kind of setting yourself up for frustration.

Can you buy the tablecloths, etc. based on guesstimates, and keep the receipt so that you can return any unneeded ones?

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