I want to run away

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
1240 posts
Bumble bee

Wow you have a lot on your plate tonight!  Do you have someone you can call and chat with?  Maybe just hanging out on the bee will help pass the time.

This too shall pass.  Maybe try reframing…your FI didn’t leave you, he went on a pre-planned trip.  He will be coming back.  The stuff with your family is going to take some time to figure out.  Tonight, is just one night and it is okay to not have everything solved. 

Post # 3
1296 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I can only suggest you make an appt with a licensed therapist.  

Post # 4
2137 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Try not to be too hard on your FI. He does care for you; he let you stay with him and plans to marry you. He did not tell you to stay with you parents and contimue being abused. As you said, the trip was planned in advance. That probably means money was paid and he would have lost it by not going. You are at his place and safe, so he is not worried. You will get over missing your family. Perhaps you can get a cat or a second job walking dogs or babysitting if you need some company. Do not let your feelings of lonliness make you think for one second that you should EVER contact your parents again. You will just fall back into their terrifying web. 

Try to take this all one step at a time. You have a job, so focus on working. Do you have to move right now? Are you sure that you can’t save up some more? Is this place near FI or back where you were? It may take time, but you will find a job wherever you go. Your family was horrible to you, and despite what you feel, you are not missing a thing. Please, relax, take a walk, watch some movies and eat popcorn, exercise, read a book, listen to music, etc. There are many ways to fill your time. The weekend will fly by, dear. Good luck to you with everything!

Post # 5
1269 posts
Bumble bee

southernbelle92:  Your fiance may or may not be a bad man, but do you think you are ready for marriage? I think it is a good idea for a person to live on their own before marriage. Learn how to face life’s problems primarily on your own. I do not have the eloquence to state the many benefits of this approach, but I’m sure that 2 or 3 years from now you would not be happy to look back as say, “why did I marry him when I wasn’t sure?”

All the best. 

Post # 6
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Aspen, CO

I am a licensed therapist and I strongly urge you to seek help. All towns have community based mental health centers that treat people with no insurance or low income. They could not only set you up with a therapist, they could also set you up with a case manager. The case manager would help you access Medicaid if you are not insured (Among other things like groups, job openings etc.) 

The Bee is a fantastic way to meet some great people who are very supportive and kind. However what you are going through is beyond the need for just support (Reading both your post.)  Your abuse has lead you to believe somethings about the world that may seem normal to you but are not healthy for you.  Please seek help soon. You absolutely deserve a happy and fulfilling life. Best of luck…

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