I want to say yes to the dress, but there's just one problem

posted 4 months ago in Dress
Post # 17
146 posts
Blushing bee

I would get a different dress. As much as that dress looks amazing on you I honestly would be weirded out if my friend got married at the same venue and then also picked the same dress.
The venue in itself isn’t a big deal if it’s the same… but there are thousands and thousands of dresses. It’s too weird. Pick a similar style but a different dress. She may not say anything but I’ll bet she’s feeling weird about it. Just my opinion!

Post # 18
860 posts
Busy bee

That dress is made for you!!!! It’s stunning and you are glowing/look so happy. I would say yes to this dress. I definitely think it’s a bit strange same dressand venue, but if it’s going to make you feel the most confident and excited then don’t focus on that. Your friend is very kind and you need to remember that/greatly value that relationship. You look amazing!!! I also cannot believe you recently had a baby. 

Post # 19
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

You have a lovely figure and there are a million dresses out there that you will look amazing in. Personally I would find a different one!

Post # 20
3094 posts
Sugar bee

the1runningwife :  You are very lucky that the wedding gown industry has so many options. You will have no problem finding another dress.

Post # 21
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

dont get the same dress as your friend. there are SO many dresses very similar to this one. whether she says its okay or not people are going to think you are copying her, and they are going to talk about it. are you okay with that? 

Post # 22
9646 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Even if there’s no guest overlap I’m sure pictures will be posted on social media etc.

Your friend is being really nice about it, but the venue AND the dress??? It’s a bit much IMO.

You have a lovely figure I’m sure you can find a similar dress that you love just as much or more.

Post # 23
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Don’t get the same dress. You look great in it but you will also look great in another dress. 

Post # 24
51 posts
Worker bee

Another vote for a different dress, but you DO look amazing in this dress, so I’d visit a bunch of shops to try on every other similar dress out there – I bet you’ll find another that’s close but with enough differences to make it your own! 

Post # 25
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

the1runningwife :  I think the reason she’s encouraging the ball gown is because she’s too polite to say anything about you considering the exact dress she was married in. Those pictures will be around forever, as will hers. Don’t get the same dress. I do feel it’s breaking girl code. 

Post # 26
3928 posts
Honey bee

She is nice to say its okay. I think the best thing to do is be nice back and choose another dress. There are so many beautiful ones that would look amazing on your figure. I would be bummed if my husband saw someone else in my dress.

Post # 27
44 posts
  • Wedding: December 2019

I’m in the don’t get the same dress camp too. There are plenty of similar but not the same dresses out there to choose from, and I think as the date approached you will start feeling uncomfortable that you’ll be perceived as copying. Get a different dress and savour it.

Post # 28
4001 posts
Honey bee

You have a wonderful friend who is not petty minded.  I have to say that dress looks great on you but if you can find one you love just as much then I think that would be preferable.  Wearing the same dress will inevitably invite comparisons (who wore it better? sort of thing) and that detracts from your sense of specialness and uniqueness. You’ve got a fabulous post baby body so go find a fabulous stress you can call your own

Post # 29
2055 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Can we see the other dresses for reference? I like this dress on you but the way the see through part just ends kind of cuts an awkward point for me, I’ve never been a fan of it because it’s always makes people look shorter than they really are. I’m wondering if maybe she was actually just being nice or the other dresses do look better (mind you it’s you who’s picking the dress). 

I personally wouldn’t buy it knowing a friend had it already. 

Post # 30
566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

the1runningwife :  Aww you have a very sweet friend, and it’s nice of you to also be considerate. 

I wouldn’t give the venue a second thought.  As PP have said, there are only so many venues in an area.  I’ve been to multiple weddings at the same well known venues.

But I definitely think “copying” the dress is too much, even though it was unintentional.  You are gorgeous and have a lovely figure, so you will look incredible in most dresses.  Keep shopping. 

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